just called police on ds15 for second time ��

[foxy6]

Hi all I have had problems with ds behaviour for years. I have tried everything I can to help him but nothing seems to work. Last year I called the police and reported him for stealing from me. He was using the money to buy weed, he was felt with by the youth offending service. Given reperation and a referal to a drug awearness angency. I had hope that he would take not and change his ways. We have had money go missing since but no proof. Today I noticed his little brothers £15 birthday money is missing. I told no one where I put it but he saw me looking through that draw the other day so I put 2 and 2 together, hacked into his brother Facebook and seen messages of him telling his friends yesterday that he had £10 and today that he had £5. So I have called police again . I have also discovered that he is now using mow? Sorry not sure on spelling . I feel like a complete failure and feel like I don't want him here anymore.

Hi
I have had similar problems with my son for years. Ges always been a troubled child. I've gone to seek help for him from age of 4. He's had assessments at CAMHS to no avail. He's now admitted to me he has been smoking cannabis. He's 14. He also tried to jump of town hall building and ran away from police. We live in a lovely house in a nice neighbourhood and I feel like the worst mum n the planet. There doesn't seem to be any support for parents in this position. Im a single mum. I have meeti g at school next week about my concerns. I also got a letter through today to say he had been reported to children's panel for jumping of town house but that no action is being taken unless he does something else. I fear that I'm going to lose my son.

Thanks for your replies I have to take him to the police station on 1st March now. He tried denying it and destroyed my print outs of his chat on Facebook saying he had money, not realising I made 2 copies. He has no remorse. I just don't know what to do with him. I love him to pieces just like I do all my children but really feel like I don't want to live with him anymore. In the past I have been the one that has stuck by him and fought for him and now I just want to give up.

I really feel for you. I think you need to fight for help for you and your family. Make the school/GP/Youth Services help you. Both you and your son have a right to get the help you need.

I have a 14 year old too, which at times I really worry about. When he is in a 'battle' mode, I feel we are out of control and I do not feel that I can manage him (his behaviour on my own). I am hoping it will not develop into a 'real' problem.

Thoughts are with you, good luck to the both of you!

I feel for you. Don't feel like a failure - he knows what he's doing and he's making his own choices.

I really believe this (from similar and awful personal - and professional experience): the long game can only be this: he needs to know the boundaries of what is and isn't acceptable. And he needs to know that you love him unconditionally (bloody tough call - but there it is).

And that's all you can offer. The rest is up to him.

Also there's the Youth Offending Team if you want to bring this up at school or other agencies.

this isn't his first offence he has been felt with by youth offending team twice, and is still swing someone from them for his las offence and he has been to court once. he has distraction burglery, criminal damage and stealing from us before, for which I've already reported him for. He has done it loads of times and no matter what I say nothing seems to make a difference so this is now my second time calling the police on him for the same thing. I'd hoped the first time would have made him take note. He smookes weed most days I think and has recently started with mow a couple of times. All this I found out the other day. I try grounding him to keep him in and stop this in the past a d he climbed out Windows.
I know it's about his choices and I'm not really a failure as I have 5 children, my eldest is off to a uni interview today and works , my Dd is delightful, she has been away with her friend and he mum said she is the nicest, helpful and politest of all her dds friends and my youngest is such a sweetie, and stickler for rules.
My 17 yr old has the same friend group as my 15 and is going off track too. He quit college and is very moody these days to. I'm at a loss with them both .