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How to cope. When friends fall apart

14 replies

youngatheart1 · 24/01/2015 07:32

My ds year 11 has had same friend in street for life and always spent time together, always messaging even on holidays, feel like friend is my other son, ds goes to school 20 miles away so only sees his school friends in holidays over the past few months ds and friend have gradually started to go in different direction, I expected this to happen eventually as ds wants uni friend not but friend has met a GIRL and has just dumped ds, called ds to go round last sat girl called ds told to go, next day friiend turned up again, now I know this is normal kids stuff, ds says he is ok with it, but I am not friend is using him and has not contacted him all week, but will turn up again at some point this weekend, I want to punch his face in for being such a shit. Dh and ds tell me to keep out of it, again I do understand it is normal but feel pissed and do not know why.

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nequidnimis · 24/01/2015 09:44

So DS's friend has a girlfriend and is now less available for DS? Perfectly normal IME.

I think you should listen to your DS when he says he isn't bothered - he's probably thinking his friend is lucky, and he'd be exactly the same in that situation.

When the relationship cools, and it will, your DS will be back in favour and you'll look like an idiot if you made a fuss.

Your DH is right - stay out of it.

pasanda · 24/01/2015 14:54

Full stops might be useful!!

And 'punch his face in' - for having a girlfriend…. niceHmm

bettyboop1970 · 24/01/2015 17:51

Punch his face in, crickey, they're kids fgs. This is what happens, kids grow up and grow apart.
Get a grip!

youngatheart1 · 24/01/2015 19:02

Crikey they say about kids being abusive some adults are too. Yes full stops might have been useful but typing on small pad. I am not bothered about the girlfriend and ds and friend are not joined at hip it is just telling him to get lost because the girl had called. I was only joking about punching in face just a bit cross with him for being so bloody rude. Now I know why people slate mumsnet, let's hope none of you rotten sods need any advice anytime soon.

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BehindLockNumberNine · 24/01/2015 19:21

Erm, you sound charming. Your dh is right, stay out of it. I am on phone, tiny keypad, it has full stops!

BehindLockNumberNine · 24/01/2015 19:24

Oh, and I don't think friend is using ds, I think he is trying to keep both his friend and his girlfriend happy.

Mintyy · 24/01/2015 19:26

If you explained it a bit better you might get some more helpful replies.

As it is it just looks like a long incoherent rant with "punch his face in" at the end!

CaptainAnkles · 24/01/2015 19:26

It's a bit off for the friend to invite DS round and then tell him to go home when he gets a better offer. Just being available less because he has a girlfriend is perfectly normal and fine, but inviting him and then sending him home is crappy.

youngatheart1 · 24/01/2015 19:28

Again spiteful comments. I have severe arthritis is hands and struggle to type so sometimes take the easy route. I am a nice person just made a mistake posting and using inappropriate terms re punching, I would never hit anyone let alone a child. I have asked for this post to removed so please do not add any more comments as I have been thoroughly put in my place, it is these sort of comments that constitute bullying, no wonder kids commit suicide if the world iis this awful.

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pictish · 24/01/2015 19:29

He is not your other son, and your depth of feeling about him, wanting to punch him in the face, is a bit full on to be honest.
The lad is alowed to have a gf, and even sometimes opt to spend time with her. he never signed a contract with your family promising to be your son's bff above all others, did he?

Do see fit to calm down. This is normal behaviour. The same is going on with my son who is 13. His pal has a lassie on the go and sometimes he is second choice.
That's life...it's all in context. one day my son, and yours, will do exactly the same.

pictish · 24/01/2015 19:32

Your son will ditch a pal to chase after a girl one day - oh yes...yes he will.

And if nothing else, your son gets a lesson in life, and about how people can be.

youngatheart1 · 24/01/2015 19:33

Thanks captain, someone who understands. My son will not do this as he knows how awful if is.

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pictish · 24/01/2015 19:36

He will you know.

Mintyy · 24/01/2015 22:41

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