Dss (15.14% bmi) still Losing weight is his diet enough for him what do you teens eat.

[DaddyDavid]

I posted this in eating disorders but haven't had many responses.

My dss is on a waiting list for cahms and has suspected anorexia. He wants help and is eating more but is still losing weight 3 pounds in a week.

Dss has wheetabix or porridge for breakfast Innocent smoothie with breakfast.

Lunch at school- chicken sand which no butter plain. Or pesto pasta cold. I am not sure he eats lunch as I have no way of telling if he eats lunch.

First up, I don't know anything about eating disorders, but I do have a DS (14) who uses food as an (unconscious?) control mechanism. I try very, very hard to ignore his challenging behaviour - ie, "I'm not eating", or "I won't eat that". It's very hard. He's not 'on a diet', but eats - and sometimes drinks - nothing at school then comes home and has a snack (biscuits), immediately followed by 'lunch' (pizza, pasta), then picks his way through home cooked dinner like a toddler (Mum: "eat your vegetables at least").
A recent discovery was not to focus on what or when he eats, but to try to give him more control over food. So, taking him food shopping once a week and asking him to put what he might eat into the trolley - pizza, ice-cream, sweets, what the Hell - and then, at home allowing him to say what he is prepared to eat in addition to a piece of fruit and a vegetable (I know, I know). I remind him about food groups (which I think/hope they learn about at school it's the least they can do ), and how he needs carbs and protein and vitamins, etc.
Since I offered him this way to control his food intake he's got a lot less 'fighty' about it, though TBH it hasn't improved his choices much . I also 'sabotage' his denial by putting things like (for him, irresistible) fish and chips in front of him at weekends, and filling him up with milk as others have suggested.
If your finances stretch to it, try going out for a meal (pub meals) so that he gets the message that food is a social thing that lots of people enjoy.
I should add, before I get flamed, that, yes, I do make separate meals for DS when DH and I want to eat food that he won't touch which is just about everything that is not beige . It is a nightmare to deal with food issues because food is such a fundamental part of our nurturing role. I would suggest books by Ellyn Satter - How to Get Your Kid to Eat, But Not Too Much - for anyone interested in eating issues.

Another thought DaddyDave. If your DS is interested in a particular form of exercise, could he Google it to find out how and what 'professionals' eat to do that exercise. I remembered the Tour de France and how much the cyclists had to eat (9,000 calories), just to do a race and still they lost weight! It might help him feel that eating more is not dangerous and that enough food must be there in order to fuel his chosen activity. Hope that makes sense.