DS's head kicked like a football. It was filmed. What to do.

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DS, who's nearly 15, had a fight one on one with and old enemy. While the two were on the ground four or five of the other guy's friends went in and kicked DS. There's film of this which another Dad has told DH about. Apparently one boy runs in and kicks DS's head 'like it's a football'.
DS has a swollen face and eye socket. He's been too A&E. No break or fracture on the eye socket but the nose is probably broken. Too swollen to be sure at the moment.

I want to go the police. There is film of the incident. DS is going ABSOLUTELY MENTAL at the prospect of my reporting it saying it would ruin his life and he wants to deal with it in his own way.

It turns out 'his own way' is getting older, harder kids to go and 'have a word', scare the shit out of this kid and probably beat him up. Putting petrol on the flames in other words and using violence on violence on violence on violence on violence on violence.

Another possibility is that we could show the film to this other kid's school. The kids kicking my son are in school uniform though it didn't happen on school grounds.

I feel completely out of my depth. I have a 9 year old ds who looks up to his 15 year old brother. I don't know about violence. I've never been in a family with a violent person in it before. I'm very upset and confused.

Oh my goodness :(

Nothing to add, other than best wishes really.

Another one sending out best wishes to you.

How awful for your family, most of all your poor son. I'm glad he wasn't seriously hurt, although his injuries sound horrific enough.

I hope that he feels better soon and realises that they police are the people to handle such a serious situation.

My son was beaten up without motive by a gang of boys. We went to the police. It was a long process but they went to court and my Ds got compensation. The compensation was not as important as the sense of closure he got from seeing them punished. At the time he was very worried about involving the police but can see now that it was the right thing to do.

Kicking someone in the head could kill them these kids need to learn there are consequences to their actions.

I would also be tempted to tell the head of the school the boys attended. You are doing the right thing x

You need to go to the police and inform the other school. If the boys were in school uniform then it is a behaviour matter that the school can deal with too, and I would fully expect the boys to be excluded, at least temporarily, and for the school to put in a lot of work with the boys to try to prevent it happening again. If the other school aren't interested, then the suggestion of going to the local media would sort it.

Police and tell the school. Your son is lucky he was not permanently brain-damaged or killed.

It's the right thing to do.
I'd want contact with the other boys' school and parents. The Police will do that, will they?

How is your son's recovery?

One of his older mates could stick up for him/retaliate in a violent way and seriously damage another kid and then......
Hope he can think of the possible consequences.
You must be so worried.