how do u deal with a drunken teenager

[starshaker]

last night my little sister was taken home by the police for being really drunk. not sure what all happened but my step dad has now left my mum which means she has to deal with it on her own. dsis was ment to come and stay with me for the rest of the holidays but my sdad has said she cant. not sure what to do and my mum is in bits

by the way she is only 15

is it a one off?
If she is regularly out carousing with friends and they all drink every week, then get tough
otherwise it's sort of a rite pf passage
I know I had been drunk once at that age and was so ill it put me off for another few years.
MY brother also get trashed aged 15 - my dad said nothing simply got him up at 7am the next morning and took him to his footy game where he was goalie
If your sis is regularly doing this, then I guess some counselling, some curfews and some restrictions on socialising etc?

how awful - has your stepdad left because of this?

if she was drunk enough to be taken home by the police, then it must have been bad.

if things have been bad at home, her drunkeness might be a reaction to that..if it is a one off

i think all teens experiment with alcohol to a certain extent...if this is the first time, it needs to be dealt with differently than if she does this every weekend...

Well if its a one off I shouldnt worry too much, I would just point out to her that drinking may seem fun but it makes her vulnerable (health and personal safety wise) and isnt really a smart thing to do.

If she is living with your Mum surely it is her decision if she stays with you - I would imagine she is more likely to listen to you than her parents who, if they have recently separated, she is probably quite angry with.

nope it was a regular occurance but they didnt let her stay and friends etc because of it then she went a while and they let her have a sleepover and this is what has happened

and yeah my s-dad has left and my mum is not coping well

she is proving to them that she doesn;t deserve to be trusted or treated as an adult as she is behaving like a child.

your mum is your priority right now

can you talk to your sister and explain that however angry or rebellious she is feeling, her behaviour is impacting on all the family...she might listen to you as her older sister...

well she got away with it again. and she seems pleased tht shes not grounded or anything. how do they expect her to learn her lesson if she doent have any consiquence

well, realistically , they can;t expect her to learn her lesson

if she is taking advantage of a bad home life situation ,by taking the p*ss with her behaviour, knowing full well she won;t receive and consequences..not a lot you can do

your mum will be preoccupied with her marital issues and a canny 15 year old will know just which buttons to push to get what they want....

can you suggest to your mum that your sister is punished?

My 15yearold got very drunk at a party and dh had to go and fetch him. I put him in the recovery position on the hard kitchen floor and left him there all night. He is bigger than me and no way was I going to put my back out trying to put him to bed. He was sick, lying in it etc. I took photos of him with the digital camera and showed them to him the next day. I checked on him regularly during the night (sat up most of night actually)He has vowed "never again". So far, he has been sensible. However, I am lucky, there are no real problems for him to be dealing with at the moment, so I reckon I have got off very lightly so far. It is horrible at the time though, and I would hate to be dealing with my teenagers all on my own.