Teenage daughter's Boyfriend

[Ddibi4]

First of all, I should say that I'm not a mum, I'm a teenage daughter, but I thought this would be a good place to ask this question, so I made an account. I am turning 18 in two weeks' time, and my boyfriend turned 18 a couple of months ago, meaning that he is legally an adult and I will be very soon. When my boyfriend stops over, he is made by my parents to sleep on the sofa, and because our sofa has 'hard bits' and isn't very comfortable, this gives him a really bad back that has caused him to have really painful migraines in the past. I have a double bed and am on the pill, and have been with my boyfriend for 4 and a half years. Do you think my parents are right to ban him from sleeping in my bed with me? What would you do in this situation, as a parent or in my position?

I think you should ask your parents to purchase an airbed to be used in the living room.

Why should the parents buy the airbed? They've offered the sofa. The guest is an adult. If they don't like the sofa they can go home or buy their own airbed to bring with them.

Well, I would expect that to be the parents response

My boyfriend was allowed to stay over in my bed from when I was 17. However my DD is only 14 months and I have no idea if I will be so accommodating when she is older . Can you stay at his instead? I do actually think they should let him stay in your room in the circumstances you describe but they get to make the rules in their own home. I agree that this thread seems completely contradictory to the one a few weeks ago where a poseur was told she should allow her 18 year old daughters boyfriend to stay over!

My parents didn't have a problem with my bfs staying over (in my bedroom) from about 17.

Not sure how I'll feel when it comes to my own children, though...