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I know i shouldn`t have looked but .....

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mooshy · 14/10/2006 11:34

DD1 aged 14 had her best friend sleepover last night.
Dh has taken them to their dance class and i suggested dds friend leave her bags here in the hallway until her mum comes (shes bringing dd back for me ). Anyway it was totally wrong i know but i just wanted to flick throu her math book to compare to dd.In her bag is my dds pretty expensive microphone.Am 99% sure its dds and now im gutted.
Think Ill just shut up as shouldnt have been nosing anyway, but am still quite upset and wanted to ask if im doing the right thing by saying nothing.I suppose it could be hers but i doubt is as cant find my dds. oh shoot.

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ledodgywizardrobespierre · 14/10/2006 11:35

perhaps your dd has lent it to her.

SoupDragon · 14/10/2006 11:35

Could your DD have leant it to her though?

BATtymumma · 14/10/2006 11:39

yeah i would stay quiet until you know for sure.

you really shouldn't have been nosing through her things and if you do say something and this is al very inocent you will come off lookign very bad indeed.

when they return whynot say something like, ooh DD do you have that mic we got you....someone wanted to borrow it, do you mind?

at least then you will get the reponse you need. and if the girl has taken it without asking then she has an oppertunity to replace it and no one has to know.
(just dont invite her again)

southeastastralplain · 14/10/2006 11:41

you nosey old thing, you wanted to compare maths books!! curiosity got the cat

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mooshy · 14/10/2006 11:43

yes i suppose she may have done.They have formed a pop group and are recording a cd.
Must tell you we didn`t really take them too seriously as their excitement has grown-until last week when we realized there MANAGER (hmmmm ) and welsh tutor needed permission to take them to his studio next month to record the cd. Hes only the ex Heresay and S Club 7 manager for real. Needless to say we are now showing much more interest !!!!!!!
Think i jumped to the wrong conclusion, or rather hope i did-sorry

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Original poster
mooshy · 14/10/2006 11:43

Spot on Southeast.
Think I`m the one with the red face.

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slaughterfalls · 14/10/2006 11:47

Did she hesitate whne you suggested she leave her bags?

Was the mic hidden in the bag or easy to spot?

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mooshy · 14/10/2006 11:50

Tes i didnt know why she needed to take her school bag dancing and it was under her books.Still Ill casually ask dd where it is when her friend is gone.

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NannyStar · 15/10/2006 10:25

has she gone yet?

themoon666 · 15/10/2006 10:41

Ooh I've done the same thing... sneaked a look in friends' school books to compare. Only if they've left books out though.... I never went delving into bags.

hub2dee · 15/10/2006 10:50

You need to spill coffee on the bag as you tripped on a toy in the hall and then as you were cleaning up....

I'm gonna be one evil super sleuth dad, eh... LOL

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mooshy · 15/10/2006 12:44

yep microphone gone missing.
Haven`t said anything though and will be a bit more careful next time friend sleeps over !

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FredBassett · 15/10/2006 12:50

So your dd didn't lend it to her?? Have you asked your DD why it was in her friends bag?

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mooshy · 15/10/2006 14:43

No i didnt tell dd i saw it in her friends bag. She just thinks she cant find it. havent the heart to tell her as shell be gutted.Then they will fall out and Ill get caught for being nosey !

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spookegypt · 15/10/2006 14:51

can u ask her to ask her friends if they have seen it? and tell her to tell them its because you need it. it'll put more pressure on them to return it

busybusymum · 15/10/2006 15:11

How did her maths compare???????

skippydog · 15/10/2006 16:44

Have had something similar - not the nosing but the stealing and I knew which 'friend@ had done it.
The next time they were at the house i dropped it into the conversation that the MP3 was missing and I would have to inform the police so I could claim the insurance - funnily enough it turned up very shortly afterwards.

Cackle · 15/10/2006 16:48

I wouldn't hesitate to phone the girl in question and tell her that she has 24hours to return the item or you will call the police. If she returns it to your daughter with an excuse of 'I must have picked it up by mistake' then you won't spill the beans.

I think that the crime of theft far outweighs the embarrasment of nosiness.

zippitippitoes · 15/10/2006 16:52

say to your daughter that her friend has probably got it as she was the last one there..if she kicks off and defends friend then say actually she has i saw it in her bag but thought you must have lent it to her

themoon666 · 15/10/2006 17:38

Yes... agree with Zippi.. that's what I would do.

kid · 26/10/2006 22:16

what happened in the end, did she get it back?

collision · 27/10/2006 16:07

.

GODisGOOD · 27/10/2006 16:15

I AM GOD and i know everything. I know there is something wrong in wanting to compare your teenagers maths work.

fortyplus · 30/10/2006 01:41

So come on then... has she got it back or not?!

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