New Year's Eve

[GaryBaldy]

What are your teens up to for NYE?

For the last few years we have got together with several families, the adults socialise downstairs and the kids upstairs.

This year some of the older DCs 14/15/16 want to go to one of their friend's party. Guess we have been lucky so far, but now it's becoming inevitable that they want to do stuff without us. Also means one of us needs to stay sober to go collect them

Eldest is 21 now and DH has spent every nye since she was 17 taxiing kids about- though mostly they did sleep over. Youngest 15 not yet into partying much.

Tbh we are not huge drinkers and one of us staying sober isn't a problem. We'd much rather be the driver than someone else's possibly not sober parent, or worse still a tired teen driver when there are drunk idiots on the road too.

Thanks for all your comments. I'll have a think about it!

Well it's seems DS has no contact number for the people hosting the party- I strongly suspect, and have done all along - the parents are going out leaving their 15 & 17yo home- who have then taken it upon themselves to invite people over....DS doesn't even have a house number...."it's the house with the pink vw camper outside" isn't good enough when we are going to a party 20 miles away. I'm not driving around in the dark looking for a pink camper van on NYE.

At 17, I certainly wasn't asking my parents' permission to go out!!

DS 15 is going to a party and coming home in the morning. There will
I don't know the family personally, but I do trust his judgement and know the type of kids he spends his time with (geeky). He won't drink because he doesn't like it. He asked permission and is grateful that we have said yes.

The last NYE I spent with family was Millenium Eve when I was 14. I always went to parties with friends after that. Riet, I really think you should let your daughter go out with her friends!

My DC are 15 and 18 and we have spent every NYE as a family, this year we are going into London for the fireworks.
If we weren't doing this and were planing to stay at home then I would be happy with them going to parties.

Riet 17 is an adult and certainly not an age were her stepdad gets to tell her she is not allowed out. Making her stay in will likely cause resentment and isolation from her friends. I hope you let her go/she goes.

Christmas is for family nye is for friends. Always the rule in our house so seems odd to me having family events on nye.

Riet your DH is being very unreasonable. She is almost an adult and making her stay in is unkind. I assume you have different rules in other areas for all your children...bedtimes, adult films, drinking alcohol etc.

We have 1 dd who is 14 and is coming out with us to my mum's local pub (small village, back of beyond.)
There is a meal, live band then buffet later. We are then going to stay with my parents overnight and have a New Year's Day lunch with them. Dd is happy to be with us at present on NYE.

I think the only NYes with any excitement and magic are those when you are 17/18. Look at the dull New Years we are having thread - plenty of years to sit in with your family she should be out having fun. Cruel and unusual to ground a 17 year old on nye never heard anything like it! No wonder she is hacked off.

Agree, best NYE were as a teen, between 15 and 19 when allowed to party with friends.
DD1 (17) going to a house party, small group of friends. fortunately only a 15 minute walk away. Has been some discussion about her walking home in the early hours, but she assured me a group of them will be walking together and our house is the closest, so will pass us first. Did offer a lift, but she said everyone else is walking. Slightly concerned as street lights lhere go out at 1am, although there will be lights from some houses.
We will stay up to watch fireworks on TV with DD2 (12), but don't really celebrate these days.

Sounds a good solution circular. Mine are still under 8 so we are having a family disco with some other families. Making the most of the years they want (have?!) to hang out with us!