Why did I even bother?

[BrowersBlues]

My DS aged almost 16 was on work placement this week. I arranged for him to attend at my work place in various departments. He went for the 3 days that I picked him up from his fathers and dropped him home. For two days I was working away and the little shit didn't bother going.

I called in a lot of favours and people really put themselves out to organise interesting placements. I am so f***g furious and so upset that I am almost close to tears.

Honestly, why do I bother? He is a selfish prick who has made the last two years of my life hell at times. I am very upset but as usual have to put a brave face on it. Please tell me to stop caring. He is just going to let me down time and time again.

To make matters worse I am stuck in an airport because of computer problems in UK air traffic control.

If I had known having children was going to be like this I wouldn't have had them. I am so disappointed and so embarrassed.

Suppose I am just going to have to get over it.

I empathise with you all. A friend of mine had a gorgeous little boy who she idolized. Her son turned into the teenager from hell and physically and verbally abused her. My friend nearly died from anorexia that seemed to be triggered by son's behaviour.

You are not alone. My good friend has been ostracised by her 2 teenage sons. She and her husband separated but always put their kids first and provided a secure family upbringing in their early years. She is devastated and has given everything to raise her sons, and cannot even speak on the phone with them; they ignore her - they do as they please and live with their dad as it's 'easier' (they do whatever they want). It's so sad and I feel helpless; regardless of the separation, she doesn't deserve this from her sons

Why is this happening? Bowers....glad you had a good night...I've done nothing but cry this evening, my eyes are sore...I've brought up the youngest boys to have respect and they are articulate and bright...Is it drugs?? weed?? Wudawoman, sandgrown...its just horrific!

Dreadful stories! Smiley, I hope you have stopped crying. It's awful. I have no idea why it happens, it seems random to me. Just keep posting, it might you to get it off your chest. Most people here know exactly what you are going through.

Have you finished the counselling sessions? Hopefully you will get a few days of calm. Just keep telling yourself that you are not alone. Your DS will leave home at some stage. Do something nice for yourself. I am thinking of getting my nails done. They are in a right state because I have been chewing on them due to anxiety - horrible I know!!

I hope you get a good night's sleep and feel fit for work tomorrow. Look after yourself x

Reassuring to hear others are having challenges with their ranting entitled teens.

My ds told me tonight he isn't going to bother working at school anymore as he doesn't want or need any bits of paper to get by in life. Neither will he need money when he is older as he will live in a yurt and eat carrots that he's grown and sell dope

Diesel, the living in a yurt and eating carrots made me smile, not a very varied diet. I didn't laugh about the selling dope idea. I think being on drugs must be hell. I hate the thought of my DS 16 smoking it. It is so bad for teenagers especially.

I get annoyed when I hear people who think it is so cool. Even Holland has admitted that smoking dope is probably not the best thing to do. Maybe it's ok if your brain is fully developed, I don't know!

I suppose there is no point in pointing out the flaws in his plan. Ranting entitled teens coupled with them knowing everything there is to be known is a lethal combination.

I think dope really demotivates kids. They all seem to smoke it , it's as if siting around getting stoned has become a career in itself amongst the young people round here . They are so disillusioned with the way things are in the world.

My Ds just wont put in enough work to pass his exams.The more I try, by whatever blatant or subtle methods possible, the more my Ds resists and gets abusive. He hates school and is not remotely interested in even thinking about what alternative study/training/job he might be interested in doing.

Lots of sympathy from me. A friend is a Community Mental Health Manager snd says there are lots of studies showing issues with teens and cannabis smoking and that she is always surprised it is not more publicised. Also else said the cannabis today is stronger with more T something in it than the stuff that was doing the rounds when we were young.

I think there is a lot of pressure in teens at the moment as they are guinea pigs education wise with teachers having to accommodate big changes to exam system on an annual basis. I find it stressful so not surprised they do.

How sad that the OP couldn't come and vent without people getting sanctimonious.

Bowers I have one full time nightmare teen and one part time nightmare teen too.

When you have children no one ever tells you what utter bastard 's they can be.

I am quite convinced that if you have a teen to a teen to look after (like the fake babies) overpopulation would no longer be an issue.

Financial you are very brave to refer to your teenagers as utter bastards. I called my DS a selfish prick and I got hell for it.

I really laughed at the idea of a teenager getting a teenage doll. My two would have taken it to the pub, got it drunk, made it snog a stranger, get into a fight and probably have a few spliffs and not come home for a couple of days.

I am afraid to say it out loud but my two are actually being relatively nice to me at the moment. My son just rang from his fathers because I said I would take him and his girlfriend out for dinner. I am dying with a cold so can't go out tonight and I made the mistake of saying 'why don't you two go without me and I will give you the money'. Cue him being really really nice to me. I walked into that one - too many Lemsips.

My DD popped in from who knows where to get her uniform for work. She was nice to me because she needed money for her break, the use of my hairbrush and something to eat.

I haven't got out of bed today and have no intention of getting out of bed. I have spent the day on Mumsnet and got involved in some very interesting threads, mainly as an observer. I went on 'Active' threads and spent about two hours completely involved with some posters who were encouraging each other to improve their lives. It was really interesting.

Now that I have said that things are nice and quiet here I am going to brace myself for a telephone call from my local police station later. At least school is closed so I can't get phonecalls from the Principals until the 5th of January.

I hope everyone has a peaceful evening.