My daughter left herself logged in to Facebook. I read some of her exchanges ... mentioned LSD, "changing dealer" and other stuff.
Now she is a fairly conscientious person, working on a levels, and has many positive aspects. And I'm not good at confrontation. So I said nothing. But implied to her mother [we're separated] that I though she might be doing stuff. Her mother said to her that I thought she was doing hard drugs.
Daughter phoned me, did admit to doing ecstasy once, but said she wouldn't do it again. Asked if I trusted her, I didn't say yes, didn't say no either. And now she thinks I dont trust her. [I;m not sure she appreciated the irony there]
I kinda cocked up in many ways! I cant mention I read her facebook.
Thing is I dont want to damage relationship cause the good side of her is good. And I kinda are of the opinion that she's growing up, and that means there is good and bad. I've always been of the opinion that at the end of the day unless you lock them in, or have some magical perfect child, or have done a better job of parenting than I have, there is little that you can do to prevent them experimenting if they feel so inclined. Her mother is of the opinion that best we can do is provide a supportive roof.
So, now I have to confront her ... eeek. Sad thing is there is a lot of love, mostly. Maybe it was a blip.
So what do I do that is supportive, constructive and doesn't create a rift. And what do I do long term? What is your experience?