Hi, our 16 yo DS2 is the youngest of 3 (S,D,S). He has always been closer to his dad than to me. We both work long hours, stressful jobs. Reorganisations meant that the only work I can get means a long commute most days which means I am rarely home before 7. I work from home 1-2 days to counter this. We have been through huge family stress the last two years: flooding, evacuation, multiple rented homes, and have recently discovered the house wasnt dried properly initially, so we are back to square one. DD has had serious mental health issues this year having witnessed the death of her 16 yo climbing partner at school- she is making a good but slow recovery, but it has certainly sapped my energy and optimism at times. Recently DS2 has started to get very angry with us and is accusing us of being crap parents. He has always been very independent, which we have encouraged. But now he is turning that round and accusing us of neglect. The conversations are very hurtful and it is difficult for me to prevent total family meltdown when he starts on us. In fact he is a wonderful lad, whom we love dearly. But he tells us he doesn't love us and can't wait to go. I just try to keep my cool and reiterate how much we love him, whatever. i am sure he is finding the prospect of yet more building work and disruption very stressful. I understand all that. But how should we manage these angry episodes, which are getting more frequent and more sophisticated?