I have an 18 year old DS who has recently split from his girlfriend. For a whole week now he has shut himself in his room refusing to talk. I have offered sympathy, a shoulder to cry on and tried all I can think of to cheer him up without success. I'm now beginning to feel cross with him because he isn't trying to help himself. On the verge of telling him to pull himself together as it's affecting the whole family. However I don't want to do anything to make him feel any worse. I guess most teenagers go through this at some stage in their lives but really need some advice as to the best way to handle the situation. He is studying at college at present and don't want it to affect his studies.