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Doctor won't see me without dd, dd won't go

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18yearstooold · 13/10/2014 12:42

Dd has a number of MH issues which I can't manage for her, she needs professional help

She won't go to the doctors, doctor won't talk to me

What on earth do I do?

Dd is 13

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CarpeJugulum · 13/10/2014 12:45

Ask for a home visit? (yes, I know GP's aren't keen, but it does sound like she needs one).

fairgame · 13/10/2014 12:48

You could ask the school nurse to see her. They can see her in school or at home and refer to CAMHS if needed.

micah · 13/10/2014 12:49

Can you self refer to CAMHS? Some areas you can, check online.

School nurse? Or the person who deals with additional needs at school- there should be someone in that role.

Or even chat to a teacher, they may have some experience and be able to give you some ideas.

3littlefrogs · 13/10/2014 12:53

That is really unreasonable of the doctor IMO.
She is 13 therefore you are perfectly entitled to speak to the doctor about her health.
Why won't the doctor speak to you? Have they explained?

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18yearstooold · 13/10/2014 12:58

I've not got past the receptionist

In our area you can't self refer and need to have exhausted all other avenues before you get near camhs

She's fine at school but puts so much effort into being fine at home she often breaks down

I'm sure school would be shocked if I approached them

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outtolunchagain · 13/10/2014 13:04

I had this , made an appointment for me , didn't mention ds , once in the doctors office explained the situation .He was great.It was still difficult but at least we got into the system

outtolunchagain · 13/10/2014 13:04

The key is to get past the receptionist !

BackforGood · 13/10/2014 13:07

What out said.
You don't have to discuss with the Receptionist what the appt is for - book an appt for yourself with the Dr and tell them all about your worries.

marne2 · 13/10/2014 13:10

Our gp does online consultations ( not sure how as I havn't used the service).

Can you not make an appointment for yourself and then when you get there say 'actually I want to discus dd'?

It is very important that you get your dd referred ,we had the same problem with DSS at this age, he got referred and then we could not get him to appointments and if anyone came out to see him he would shut off completely. Now he is 21 and we really regret not fighting to get him help when he was younger Sad.

zoemaguire · 13/10/2014 13:16

God this makes me mad. How DARE the receptionist make judgement calls like that? I'd make an appointment in your name to see the doctor about your DD, and also complain in strongest terms to the practice manager. They shouldn't be allowed to get away with this kind of bollocks.

3littlefrogs · 13/10/2014 14:45

It is not the business of the receptionist.

Do as others have said and make an appt for yourself.

ImperialBlether · 13/10/2014 14:46

I've made appointments to discuss members of my family. I just said they were for me - the doctor was fine about it. It's not as though you're wanting access to their medical records or wanting a prescription for them, is it?

Musicaltheatremum · 13/10/2014 19:27

I have not infrequently called a patient from the waiting room to discover it is the mum, dad, son, daughter who is coming in. I have no problem with it and my receptionists know it is ok. You have to listen. You may well decide at the end there is nothing you can do but you have to listen. I've brought people in as a result of this. Don't ask for a home visit. If the child doesn't want to see you it's not going to help her trust.

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18yearstooold · 16/10/2014 13:34

I've booked an appointment for Tuesday

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