Boy at school took DS's (13) lunchbox out of his bag and threw away his lunch then chucked the box on top of PE Lockers...

[josben]

I am not sure what to do ...

Last week A boy in DS's maths class, was crawling around on the floor being silly and saw DS's bag open - he then took DS's lunch box out of DS's bag (without DS knowing) he chucked away DS's lunch and then put the lunchbox on top the lockers in a PE later lesson that day... So DS had no lunch that day - he is very quiet and did not tell a teacher when he realised what had happened...

DS told me what happened when he got home, so I emailed his tutor, she got the head of year to talk to the boy who was made to apologise to DS and then gave him a wrap and an apple... :/ he also apparently got a detention....

I am still pretty livid about it and so I am thinking of emailing the teacher again... she said that the boy would be made to give DS money for his lunch but he didn't .... i also want to know if the boys parents have been told about this ...

AIBU ...? should i just leave it alone now...? What would you do...? :(

Your poor boy i hate hearing things like this.

What else would you want done? The boy has apologised and provided a lunch (although I guess you weren't impressed with the wrap and apple or wanted cash instead?) and I assume your son got his lunch box back?

i know i was :( when he came home and told me ... I just don't know whether to leave it alone now or not - i am thinking about what would be better for DS ....?

I'm so sorry to hear this what does your ds want you to do? Was the apology sincere and is it an isolated incident?

Yes, he did get his lunchbox back because he found it in a random place.... i am just still angry, and worried about something like this happening again...?

I can understand you are worried. I would not contact school again over this incident.
Hope you ds is okay

THanks , I guess that i am just interested in hearing what others would do ... DH says to leave it now ...

Honestly I would leave it but just make sure that your DS understands that if any similar incidents happen he can go to a teacher without hesitation and also to you.

Leave it, so long as it was a one off incident it has been dealt with.

i'd leave it and monitor it. I know it's a pain and not nice for your son, but if it was "high jinks" and not specifically targeted at your son and isn't targeted at him again, you can draw a line and move on. If it or similar happens again, you'd have strong grounds for having dealt with as a bullying issue.

Hopefully it's the former and just boys being stupid and unkind because it might get them a laugh which is not uncommon.

How did your DS know what had happened to his lunch box?

I would leave it to. If the school provided the lunch for your DS then I would assume they would be billing the boy's parents directly.
It's horrible, but all you can do is to encourage him to tell you if it's an ongoing situation then you can bring it up with the school straight away. I could be a stupid spur of the moment spiteful act though and not happen again.