Hi, just wanted to know what I should do....if anything?!! We have major issues/power struggles or call them what you will with our 17 year old YD. She is immature in that she doesn't discuss things, but just does exactly what she wants, even if we have asked her not to.
A few examples...petty though they may seem to you..from this week
*She made her lunch whilst I was at work (ignoring the lunch I had left for her at her earlier request...leaving husband and MD on short rations) Left mess in kitchen, inc dirty saucepan in sink. When I got in late from work, after I'd walked dog (she hadn't) asked her to wash pan, particularly as she had invited her boyfriend to tea. She was on her I pad upstairs and refused. I said I didn't see why I should make tea if she wouldn't wash one pan. In the end she nipped down and wiped (literally) round it, leaving cheese sauce all round the bottom. Then said she'd done it. Cue me showing her that she hadn't. Cue her saying,"Do it yourself then if you want it doing so much" and laughing in my face. I walked off saying I wouldn't cook tea , she phoned boyfriend, and went out with him, to his house, although did clean pan beforehand. Attitude didn't change though, she still thought she in the right and I was being petty. Was I?
*Picked her up twice this week late (one 12.45am) Always asking her to remove shoes before go upstairs (cream carpet) as we all do in general ( two elder sisters, me and hubby) She doesn't. Ever. Even if asked to
*Rule is, however draconian you may think it is, mobile phones outside when asleep. Can be just outside door, but outside, until obviously 18 years old. Rule was there for a reason (won't go into it now, but too much activity on mobiles at night) She has just not bothered doing it this week and says she is 17 and having it in her room. Before now I have turned the wifi off on her phone (Tesco do this) I am dreading doing it again as there will be a huge row...again. She hasn't even discussed not leaving it outside as she says there is no point. I have said that tonight we can discuss it in front of her dad and I will agree but she says there's no point
I feel everything is a power struggle and I don't want it to be. She has taken the car keys with her too I think as she laughed