apparently I think I'm "the fucking queen" and he just told me to piss off.

[Boysandme]

DS (13.75yrs) has just told me I think I'm the fucking queen then told me to piss off when I said not to hit his wall.

All because I told him to do his science due in for Weds instead of his maths due in for Friday. (Science is a big task he has had for weeks and hardly started).

What joy!

I think he may find himself grounded for a few days.

Aghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Ah, this is one of those, "You do want to go to gymnastics on Wednesday?" moments.

DD2(also13) loves gymnastics, it's mums you really have pushed it too far threat.

I've never yet carried it out, having muttered and cursed, DD usually does what she's supposed to.

DH is home and we've just gone up and told him he is grounded until Friday. We will decide on Friday if he can go out on Friday afternoon.

He keeps his phone if his behaviour is good, otherwise we take that and his ipad from him too.

He was not impressed but we announced the verdict calmly and without emotion. He couldn't say a lot really.

I wouldn't ground him. I would ignore and forget it if you've told him that it us unacceptable. He is in teen hormonal development.
He is prob having difficulty regulating his feelings. He was in an angry state if hitting the wall. You told him not to which you needed to. His answer was given in a wound up state. What other reply would you expect.
Punishing will just cause him to feel hatred towards you.
He will have listened. If you labour the point it will make him push against your advice.
With teens say it once and walk away. Over time (years) their brains begin to be adult and the behaviours and arguing stops.
Get a book on teen psychology. They really help making sense of what's happening in their heads.
Good luck.

sympathies
but why are you organising his hwk schedule?

Because, however hands off you are with HW, occasionally you spot an almighty mess building up.

Our school has an addiction to ridiculously over long history projects, if they are forgotten until the last minute they cause havoc, with other subjects HW, extra curricular activities and the rest of the houses peace.