should my friend worry?

[veronika]

My friend's eldest son is 15.
Tonight he came home with his best pal and two teenage girls and disappeared to his bedroom.
My friend feels uncomfortable with this, mainly because she did not like the girls ( they were huffy and aloof) but did not want to be a spoilsport.
The girls claimed they were allowed to stay out very late, then walk home.
My friend is not comfortable with this either but does not want to get into the routine of running them home.
ADVICE PLEASE.
Thanks

They're only 15 so she could try asking them for their parents phone number to check that they are allowed to do as they say. I would have been caught out straight away had anyone done the same to me when I was a horrible teenage girl

She can say to them that she feels she has to do this since they are under age and under her roof. They will either agree or leg it a lot earlier!

I think I would do as wickedwaterwitch suggested. The thing is, I can remember exactly what I got up to at 15 and would do my utmost to stop other 15 year olds doing the same thing. Not that I did anything that "bad"!

veronika - Have to agree with what the others have said. God forbid that anything should happen to those girls walking home late at night, but if it did, it might well end up with your friend getting herself into alot of trouble being the last adult to see them, despite them not strictly being her responsablilty. People are all too happy to pass the buck in situations like that. Also, there is a teenage girl missing at the moment and there was a gang rape of 2 teenage girls in Southend at the weekend- it's a very wicked world that we live in. I feel very sorry for your friend that she has been put in this awful position, but I feel that to cover her own back she should insist on getting the girls' phone numbers to check with their parents, afterall it is for their own good. Then if their parents are at all concerned with their daughters' safety, they can arrange to pick them up.

I absolutely agree with what has been said. It is your friends home she should lay down sme rules and certainly not allow anything she feels uncomfortable with. At 15 I thought I was extremely grown up and was basically allowed to do as I liked (luckily I was very good at policing myself). However, I felt quite uncared for by my parents liberalism and I think that this is something to take into account when dealing with teenagers. They need boundaries! It is a difficult and fine line between allowing a level of freedom and acting in the young persons best interest. As Chanelno5 said, it is a wicked world out there and sometimes 'children' need protecting even when they think they don't. How many of us as adult women would feel comfortable about walking home late at night?

As the mum of an almost 15 yr old and two grown up children (plus a littlie who I fear is going to be the teenager from hell!) I think these responses are spot on. I wouldn't be happy about having two unknown-to-me girls in the house and I wouldn't be happy if my child was doing the same thing elsewhere. I like to think a parent would call me to tell me where my child was.

Veronika totally agree with everyone here. I would not want to be responsible if something were to happen to these young girls. The way the world is and how people think if something happened the authorities would probally would assume your friend or son had something to do with what happened. My other point is why is your friend even allowing any girls in her sons room especially with the door is shut. I know if my 15 year old son (now 12) were to have friends over mainly girls they could not go into a bedroom and shut the door. You know how boys and girls can be.