My DD is 17 and her attitude towards me in particular is getting worse, she is rude and spiteful. If I ask her to do anything it's picking on her if it's things I have asked her to do before I get told she doesn't see why this needs to be done a certain way or she shouldn't have to change who she is to gain my approval, this is following a simple request to allow herself more time in the mornings in order to avoid the bad tempered rush not to be late. She accuses me of not showing affection but it's hard when everything I say is contradicted, argued with rude or patronising apparently. This all sounds like whining but I find it upsetting as it gets personal. DH says let it wash over you he doesn't take it to heart when she has a go at him. After an argument she acts like nothing happened until the next one and I find that hard to deal with. Am I too sensitive? I know it's her age but I was thinking at 17 she may be coming out if it.