threatening boyfriend

[cssdymr]

Hi, my 14 yr old daughter x bfriend getting friends to call, text, snap chat etc and using threatening language. She is ignoring and blocking numbers etc but is obviously stressed. What can I do?

Speak to his parents?. I'd be mighty pissed off if that were my ds and would punish him accordingly.

If not school? Or police?

Take her phone away for the time being? I sympathise- my dd1 went through this at the same age. The school dealt with him in the end, as his Head Of Year had a quiet word, which actually worked. I was on the verge of involving the police though.

I'd speak to his parents if they are the sensible sort. In my dd's case though, the boy's mother was one of the ones sending her messages!

Take control.

Take the technology so he can no longer " get" to her. Then screen shot ( or even just photograph with your phone ) any messages - snap chat deletes itself I believe , whilst replying just once " this is X mum. I am asking you to stop all contact now. Any further messages will be copied and taken to the police".

She is so young to be coping with this. I'd reckon it's the time to be the " heavy mum" . She's going to object but actually will be relieved.

I agree, parents, school and then police if you can get no joy from the first two.
I know she wants its to just go away but I'd try and keep a record of what's being said. Screen shots etc.
get her to send the texts to you so she can delete them off her phone but you've still got a record?
Cyber bullying is taken very seriously nowadays.

Thanks for the advice. No point talking to his mum, she thinks he can do no wrong but if it continues I will just get the police involved.

Keep us updated. This is such a horrible thing to be happening to your DD :(