DS14 has had a really rough 2 years, excluded, police intervention, social services, CAHMs equivalent, GP, private counselling. We've been there and seen it all.
In the last few months, life has gone from absolute hell, with him being violent, anger and dispair beyond belief to a totally changed child. He's calmer, ready for a new school, excited and hopeful for the future.
However, the underlying issue hasn't gone away and I'm desperate to get him some real support. His bio father has a very very nasty Heroin addiction. Today is DS birthday, we dropped him at his paternal grandparents as he has no contact with his father, never thought anything of it. He's come home and has been to see his father, "I figured if he was ever going to listen, it would be today". He's told us (myself and his step-dad) that he thought talking to him would help him clean up and that though he wants to not see him, he can't walk away till he knows he's tried everything. It's heartbreaking to hear him, he says he's fine with it all but then mentions how mentally scaring it is to see his father in such a state.
He has made such amazing progress with everything in his life that I'm desperate not for it to come undone. I think he actually uses his father as a catalyst for change in his own life not wanting to be like him, but at the same time, it's a horrific thing for a young teen to deal with.
Any advice on organisations he could talk to? Any ideas at all? He talks to us but however hard I try to be as unbiased as I can, my absolute hatred of his father and everything he's done to our son, makes it difficult for me to be the one he can really open up to.
Open to all advice and thank you for your time x