18 Year Old Son Not Socialising

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Having two teenage sons, one with a very hectic social life I do worry about my other 18 year old who spends his evenings and weekends at home. He is doing a full time apprenticeship and does play sport at weekends but will never stay after, comes straight home and then is on his computer or watching Sky Sports! Many of his friends now have girlfriends or are off to Uni which I think has been "the problem" so after reading many threads worrying about their teens or young adults kids out and about all the time, mine is the opposite! Do I leave him to it or try and give guidance and encouragement to get out and see some life?

Oh he sounds fine!!Doing sport which is great....he will do things in time I'm sure...I would be happy if my nearly 18y old was doing the same.....I wouldn't feel stressed at all!!! :)

Hi Smiley Forest - yes he is really fine. I think we all have the image of teenagers (as my 17 years old is included in this) are out all the time partying and spending time with friends etc I'm not stressing over him, I just don't want him to miss out on this great young years.... Perhaps I'll leave him to it

I say leave him to it.

I have a 17 yo DSS and a 16 yo DS. Neither of them tend to go out much. The occasional visit to a friend or meet up during the day.

I think my issue stems from comparing my youth - I was a young teenager in the 80s and was out every night all night.

Hi iwantgin you are so right. Being also a teen from the 80's I was never at home and partied....must stop comparing to my teenage years then!

My 18 year old never socialises outside of school. He starts college (travelling daily) next week. His sister says everyone likes him at school - even the teachers - but he has no confidence. Speaks when spoken to. He seems anxious about getting the bus to college, not knowing anyone and what will he do at lunchtime. He picked this college because its closer to home I know. I am really worried and anxious about him but trying not to show it.