Help...how do I....

[poppy90]

Remove MSN Hotmail from my computer so my daughter can't spend all her waking hours learning about stuff she really shouldn't!!

do you mean messenger or the hotmail email service?

if its the hotmail email service then you can block access to that site with your parental controls
if it's massenger then you need to go to add/remove programs and delete it

how old is she, cause she could easily put it back on. not sure how to help really sorry

Its the messenger I know I do keep removing it from programs, but like you said, she keeps putting it back on!!

How old is she poppy? I know it can be quite addictive - i have set ground rules since going back to school - homework first!!

She's 15 & very niave!! But saying that she just ignores all the 'please do your homework irst' comments. Although I HAVE just put a password on her log-in - which she doesn't know!

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is she doing all her homework on the computer? if not then say she can go on it and dont let her until its done, hide a cable or something!!

if she is, just explain to her that she may chat on messenger once she has finished her homework, but if she doesnt then explain that you will take all computer privileges away etc

i wouldnt block it completely or put passwords on until she have told her why it is important or she will rebel if you do. teenagers..pffft! good luck!

Thanks jamieboo yes teenagers pah!!

Mine are on a strict warning.... homework first or MSN is banned for 2 weeks and then only restored at weekends.

You won't stop a 15 year old (unless you take an axe to the computer. DS went to a tennis camp in France in the summer and is now MSNing in French - so some good can come of it!
Can you find out who she MSNs? My DS contacts his friends, bro's friends etc but not random people (paedophiles?)

We decided that no computer was allowed on Tuesday, Thursdays or Sundays for any reason. We said if DS went against that then we would remove it for two weeks, its worked so far. Good luck.

Thanks SO much, they are all great ideas.
I shall certainly try. I know (well pretty certain) she is not in touch with random people!

Dont mean to scare but my dd 13 at time got into msn and started telling people how sad miss-understood and hated by her family she was ( mainly stepf) absolute rubbish!!! she was just joining in, being accepted! cool hey? would'nt let her on again till pc moved into lounge where at least she awas within view

I agree it's bloody scarey... Our pc is also in lounge but they can be very sneaky!! DD told school she was having problems at home..... the next thing I know, her school teacher rang me

Me too! and no matter how you explain and how understanding they are you always think that they view you differently (no smoke without and all that)

Absolutely!! "I know how difficult things can be Mrs X" YEAH RIGHT....

Awfull if youv got younger ones following on!!!

are the people shes talking to her friends because surely they will talk about the same stuff when they are together

well 'friends' as such, She knows of them, she's not one for socialising really, quite immature and they are mainly friends friends IYSWIM??

Does she have girlfriends or best friend who you could encourage her to see rather than these virtual friends? or any activity she likes to do?

Her best friend lives quite a way from us but they do get together and go shopping or the cinema when they can. She only has one real friend at school who comes round now and again and they sometimes go swimming together! I have told her now that msn is limited as is her time on pc, but you know how manipulating they can be!!

absolutely! but if you know this your on top. Does she still like to have time with you? you konw girlie time?

To some degree... we were singing on the karaoke together this aft!!

how lovely good luck to you both ill check back on you x

Thanks