Evicting a 21-year old

[Pinemarten2]

Hello, has anyone had experience of this? I have a 21-year old son who is likely to return from university soon. He makes life intolerable, and gets aggressive when opposed. We have been through police called out, counselling (for us), countless rows and tension. I know we don't have to have him back, but does anyone have any practical suggestions for how you manage that, if he turns up? Or suggestions of where we could go for help? We have another younger child, and do not want go go through any more trauma.

Why not give him a call and arrange a convenient time to help him look for a flat to stay in himself.

If he's at uni is he staying in halls or already has a flatshare?

Has a room there till money runs out; has plans to stay longer, and but based on finding any job there -may be v. thin on the ground.

What have said to ds about moving home? Does he expect to be able to come back if he feels he needs to?

Are there any other temporary options if he is in a fix. An uncle or cousin who would let him stay for a few weeks.

Do you have the money to be able to lend him for a flat deposit to help get him started?

Have you changed the locks?

In your shoes I would email and say something like

Well done on completing your studies. Proud of you blah blah. When we last spoke/emailed you said you plan to stay in uni town. I really hope this works out for as you are much happier there

As we both know it doesn't work when you leave with us. So it will not be possible for you to return home for even a short period time.

I do want to support you in other ways so I would like to [insert what moral\practical \financial help you are able to offer.]

If out of work he can claim housing benefit and jsa. He doesn't have to return home. If the landlord then evicts him the single homeless have a duty to help