I have a 16 year old (will be 17 in August) teenage girl. She has just completed her first year of a-levels. She works on a weekend and on the face of things she seems like a pleasant, capable young lady. The problem we have is that she is not very motivated and needs constant reminding to do anything. Her room is a mess. She needed to be told to revise all the normal teenage things, which we do expect and don't really have an issue with. We have always done a lot for her, driven her to places, reminded her of deadlines etc and it now seems that she cannot be bothered to make any real effort with anything as she knows we have always picked up the pieces. She craves her independence and yet she cannot be bothered to make any effort with organising anything. This weekend was a prime example when we made an effort to start looking at universities. We asked where she wanted to go, nothing materialised so I made a list of uni's for her to look at. She said she wanted to go to a particular one, when we looked into more detail, this uni didn't even have an open day. We then sat down and figured it out for ourselves, picked another uni and went to the open day. She then dripped around the uni, letting us ask all of the questions etc. We have said to her if it's not for her then that's fine. She insists she does want to go but to be quite honest we cannot see this to be the case. We are not pushing her to go to uni, I think she just likes the idea of it as it feels grown up. She wants to be a teacher. But we are not prepared to spend a lot of time and effort on something that she really cannot be bothered with. My real dilemma now is how do we go forward? Clearly we have done too much for her and this has been to her detriment. Should we completely back off from the uni applications and let her find out the hard way?