My 16 y/o son became sexually active with his 15 y/o girlfriend several months ago. The girlfriend's mum is aware too, and has put her on the pill (they are also using condoms as extra insurance!). We both feel it is too young but there are occasions when we they are alone due to our work commitments & we both feel powerless to stop it.
Anyway.....
yesterday the girlfriend was round, they both went upstairs to son's room. Not long afterwards I heard, let's say..... 'noises'. I knew they were watching a DVD and stupidly assumed it was the DVD, so shouted from the bottom of the stairs "can you keep the volume down guys', I could see that the bedroom door was ajar as per house rules so thought they cannot possibly be up to no good.
A few minutes later, I took some laundry upstairs, again heard the 'noises' and realised it was not the DVD, door was still ajar so I knocked on it loudly and said I was opening the door. Thing is, I didn't realise the son has wedged stuff behind it so it would only open so far, so I looked a bit of an idiot and the door didn't budge open much more. I thought OK that will tell them, but another few minutes later I came upstairs again to see the corner of his bed shaking (I can't see the bed in full from the stairs).
I thought bloody hell, the nerve! So made a bit of noise to make them realise I was upstairs, then decided I just can't tolerate this, it was making me feel sick, so knocked on the door, and said "I do not want to hear sex noises again, and your door needs to be fully open - remember the house rules!" and walked downstairs feeling a little pink and just a tad awkward.
Today, I told son that said stuff needs to be removed from back of the door but he doesn't have room for it elsewhere. I want to go in there and find room myself but part of me feels he should be entitled to his own space and that I shouldn't go barging in there organising his room.
How do I deal with this? It's kind of funny looking back on it, but there is now an atmosphere with the son, who has said he now wants to move out (as if).
Advice please from fellow look-afterers of sexually active teens at home.