I apologise in advance as I know this will upset some of you - to say nothing of me. DS is supposed to be going to Egypt next month - one month before he turns 18 - with his GF. At no point have I been asked permission. Last week he was arrested for violent behavious towards said GF. He has been bailed to appear before the CPS on his return from the holiday but I have said he isn't allowed to go. Many reasons..... GF is manipulative, controlling and knows his 'buttons' (not excusing anything here) He is hot headed, useless after a drink (hence the arrest). Suffice to say I am the bad mother here - in his eyes and hers tbh - but all I can see is a total disaster at best and incarceration or worse. If he has too much to drink even who else may he 'go' for? and the consequences are horrific. She is adamant it will all be fabulous but I cannot trust him to be the caring, lovely lad that I know he is (sober). The distance concerns me very very much as there is nothing I would be able to do.
So I have up to now confiscated his passport.
He hasn't spoken with me at all.
I am the bad one (his Dad agrees with me but fails to back me up always saying 'your Mum says....' which is really p*ing me off.
Can anyone offer me some advice? I do not condone a bully or abuser - I had one of them in my teens as a BF - but I am at a loss as to what I should do.
Help? xx