Our family is a bit dysfunctional. I split with the father of my four dcs in 2012 after a long marriage filled with domestic abuse. My eldest girl is 16. She witnessed an awful lot and suffered an awful lot. Consequently she suffers from ptsd, panic attacks, insomnia, depression etc. She's on sertraline for her depression.
On Monday she told me that she had sex with her bf for the first time on Friday but that she had forgotten to take her pill the same day. She had already made an appointment with the gp to discuss more long term contraception. She asked if I would come with her.
On Tuesday I discovered that she hasn't been taking her pills in an orderly way. She runs three packs together (on gp's advice) but instead of taking one pack after another, using the day indicator on the reverse she just takes them willy nilly from whichever pack comes to hand. I told her this was a little foolish but she promised me it was just the one pill.
On Wednesday we went to the gp. In the waiting room she suddenly said that she wanted to go in on her own, she'd call me if she needed me. Again, she promised me that it was just one missed pill.
Yesterday I discovered that she has stopped taking her sertraline. She has missed a week. We had a long talk last night albeit one sided. She looked dead at me but refused to engage. I told her that if she was going to muck about and be a child wrt meds then I would have to have them off her and dispense daily. I sent her to get her contraceptive pills. She did and then I sent her to bed. DD2 then came down to say goodnight and said that she didn't want to get dd1 into trouble but felt I needed to know - showed me a photo of three or four missed contraceptive pills on her bedside table. When dd1 went back upstairs to get her pills she'd scooped them up and hidden them but dd2 had taken a photo first. She didn't want to tell tales but (and I agree totally) if dd1 has a baby it will impact on us all.
So this morning I went to look where dd2 said they were and dd1 has obv got rid of them totally. Which means I'm going to have to challenge dd1 and if necessary give her the info I've got from dd2 which won't go down well.
I don't know what to do. Is she doing this on purpose? Does she want to get pg? Once I know for sure she's not pg I will be taking her to get the injection and I will be in the room each and every time. I don't know what else to do.
She is in no fit state to have a baby, regardless of age. I cannot support her and a baby. We are moving in two months, back to my hometown to have more support from my parents, which she is quite happy about. She's doing her gcses and then wants to eventually be a midwife so what is this all about? If she has a baby she's going to struggle to get her quals, plus social services are involved now (I got them involved) and so if we introduce a baby to the mix I imagine they will continue to be involved for longer. I'm at my wit's end.
Sorry this is so long.