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Try to keep this brief!
DS and GF joined at the hip...GF quite dependent on DS emotionally...etc..go to college together etc...rarely see other friends...at my house a lot..because I am a SP working full time + so take advantage of empty house....
Met with parents recently (GF) who are as concerned as me regarding relationship ...smoking weed..the affect it has on health especially GF as she has a tendency to mental health issues...
Son and GF finished ..for few days as son admitted all too stressful...he was soooo happy and different for those few days...However back together and full on again....as they do...
I felt my son needed space/ time out etc...so although I will not intervene with relationship...I have a put a STOP to it in my house...They were using and abusing my house . leaving a mess..no respect etc...and I had had enough! GF parents agreed..it was too much....I felt tense in my house...as GF very demanding...DS quite soft...
Son does work P/T...GF not really motivated......
Just frustrates me...
Advice...what would you all do....? Am I being the 'horrid Mother' by not allowing the relationship in my house now?
Been together for a year...
Nearly 18......

If it's practical, perhaps you could include him in family weekends/trips away without his GF. Hopefully he will have a lovely time and decide for himself that the relationship has run its course.

Does he feel responsible for his GF's happiness or worry about the effect of splitting up on her?