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Parenting teenagers has its ups and downs. Get advice from Mumsnetters here.

when a child older than 15 leaves home against their better judgement

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losingdd · 31/08/2006 00:52

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losingdd · 03/09/2006 18:38

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losingdd · 03/09/2006 18:43

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runkid · 03/09/2006 21:19

LDD ring them anyway they can give you advice and help. thinking of you all the time

smeeinit · 03/09/2006 21:34

losingdd, i felt just the same as you, 16 is far to young to be that serious and i feel my ds felt it was just an escape route from home. myself and my ds have always had a strained relationship.i love him dearly and im sure,at least i hope, he loves me the same but we do clash and like i said b4 him moving out has worked out the best.
dont get me wrong i miss him so much and deep down would love him to come back. but sensibly i know it would be no good for any of us.
although i think 16 is too young to be that serious am leaving him to his own devices at the mo and letting him figure it out! who knows it may work....my mum was 16 when she met my dad and fell pregnant with my eldest sister,40 years later they are still a happily married couple with 4 grown up daughters and 8 grandchildren!

smeeinit · 03/09/2006 21:35

btw, littleducks. some very sound advice, and from the horses mouth!

losingdd · 03/09/2006 21:54

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smeeinit · 03/09/2006 22:01

yeah the drugs would be a big problem for me 2.
dont think i could ignore it either.
its hard i know but i dont think you have much choice but to let her make her own mistakes. really easy for me to say i know!
what you dont want to do is push her away anymore do you.im sure she will come round and realise her bf is a total w*er!!

losingdd · 03/09/2006 22:04

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smeeinit · 03/09/2006 23:43

sending big hugs to you.
your dd will come round eventually and in the mean time carry on doing what your doing. theres no right or wrong way to handle this situation, you know whats best for you and your family.

smeeinit · 03/09/2006 23:44

gdnyt, catch you on tomorrow 2 give me an update!

losingdd · 05/09/2006 09:39

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SecondhandRose · 05/09/2006 09:43

Why don't you speak to your doctor, surely you have rights, your daughter is still a child at 15 and if she is using drugs she needs protecting. What about school?

smeeinit · 05/09/2006 10:34

hows things losing dd?

losingdd · 05/09/2006 19:36

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SecondhandRose · 05/09/2006 19:39

Oh I'm sorry. I can't offer much advice my DS is only 11, we've got it all to come. Keep strong.

losingdd · 05/09/2006 19:43

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smeeinit · 05/09/2006 22:29

losingdd, you sound like you have things under control
still really worrying i know,but when do parents not worry about their kids! atleast you know where she is and you are talking daily and keeping your good relationship going.
im glad shes starting college soon,thats one thing i really worried about when ds left in may that he wouldnt go to college,but hes starting in 2 weeks.
i hate to admit it but he doesnt need his mummy that much after all!

losingdd · 05/09/2006 22:56

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smeeinit · 06/09/2006 10:52

yes totally true losingdd!
its not the "norm" but i have been suprised just how many "kids" do leave home at 16. seems that since its happened to me and my ds that everyone has come out of the woodwork!
if you are like me i think others may judge my parenting skills.even though i freely talk about and have never really cared what people think of me, i still feel slightly embarresed of the fact that i look after other peoples little ones all day yet cant hang on to my own ds past 16!
i think ive just contradicted myself!!

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