am I doing this right?

[Notmyidea]

Dd usually saves her hormonal ranting for us. She's been shouting at a couple of friends over the phone and exchanging volatile texts this evening.
I've taken the phone off her, not as a punishment, just so she'll ignore it and told her to have an ice cream, bath an early night. She's very upset. I wouldn't call it bullying, they are as bad as one another.

Phone keeps going though. I've not read any of the new messages or answered it. Should I? Do I email school in anticipation of the morning?
Bloody girls!

I wouldn't get to involved, keeping the phone until the morning so she can chilli out and calm down is probably best. But apart from that she will ultimately sort out her own friendships regardless so ringing the school or other parents is futile and not needed.

Keep an eye on her and see if she needs a chat at all and be there to listen and make her own choices

How old is she?

I think you were right to take the phone away. Texting in the heat of heightened emotions is never wise, and she is too young to have the experience of life to know this.

The problem with texts is that they can be kept, and in the cold light of the following day, the tone can look very different.

She's 13

the only thing I worry about is that she will get a whole load of texts tomorrow that will upset her :/

I think you're right to take the phone, I'd personally read the messages myself now then maybe have a quick discussion with her in the morning about how it isn't ok to take things out on friends and how you can't expect friends to be as understanding as parents.

You don't want her reading the new texts and going off on one again. Will just become a cycle and this is what leads to the big fallings out. plus it might give you an idea of who is actually acting up and I'd be concerned that her friends might escalate the row if they think she is ignoring them so would want to keep an eye on that.

13 year old girls can have volatile arguments. A friend and I do keep an eye on the girls and contact each other if we have to. But removing the phone and warning her about how she is coming across is the best way.

If they call, answer it and tell them you have removed the phone. It usually gives the girl concerned a fright and they stop and are friends again the next morning.