DS15 smells bad. Not really looking forward to our Cinema trips.

[waspbeast]

Ds15 would quite happily go weeks without showering. I've tried blackmail, nagging, etc. He really doesn't see it as issue. Just DS15 and I went to the cinema tonight. He took his jacket off and the smell was overpowering.

DS15 had such a good time, I didn't want to ruin it, but the smell put me off the film, popcorn etc.

He usually has a different g/f every week so that's not the answer . I have dropped some major hints but they go unheeded?

I tell DS16 you smell terrible - go & have a shower & he does. It's done nicely with a smile & he isn't offended. He is very clean already though - showers every morning & again after school if he's been doing sports, clean underwear after every shower. Needs prompting occasionally at weekends if still festering about in pyjamas in the afternoon.

I think "dropping hints" isn't enough - you need to tell him he smells awful, tell him other people will be noticing at school etc, make sure he has deodorant/antiperspirant, make sure he changes his clothes frequently - DS would wear the same T-shirt for a week if I let him, unless he spilt something on it.

Hide his clothes! Forget the xbox. I had this problem with my kids. Black plastic bin bags are the answer. Every time they don't shower, clothes disappear. Also - they have to pit them back. Neatly. Tell him he is being inconsiderate to others. I used to spray perfume over my son before I would take him anywhere.

It doesn't help that their hormones are all over the place, which makes it worse for a few years. Also, they cannot wear any clothing for more than a day during that time. So monitor it and check that it has been put out to be washed. My nephew once wore 7 pairs of pants all at once. My sister put them out for him, he just added them on top of the old smelly ones because she had once told him off when the ones she put out were still there at the end of the day.

just tell him he reeks of sweat and it stinks he is smelly and unclean bugger his feelings imo they need telling if it is that bad does he not realise the girls dont stick around cos he smells of god knows what

when one of my dds were younger she was so lazy i think she just turned the shower on and faffed about in the bathroom for half an hour i tried all the hinting getting her nice deodorant/body spray blah blah, in the end i just came out with it, because if you can smell them then the people at school are smelling them ,

madeofkent

Try using Cidal soap which has a natural antibacterial effect in the form of grapefruit when you do get him to wash eventually.

I also bung a half measure of this into my teenage DS's wash when its really bad.
www.halononbio.co.uk/halo-sports

Seems to kill the lingering whiff...

I really dont understand why you have to be so nice about it?
Why dont you just tell him the thruth?

"You stink and I cant cope with your body odour"
"Girls dont like smelly boyfriens"
" I am not hanging out with you if you don't make an effort to be clean and smell nice"

How was it when he was younger?
Did you make sure he was always clean and had clean fresh clothes to wear?
Did you teach him the importance of personal hygiene?

Clearly I dont have teens, but I will be extremely disapointed with my daughter if she turns out to be like this as a teen.

TBF teens can be really lazy and sluggish and if we dont prompt them then they can go through this but we do need to be firm in the prompting,

OP does he drink a lot of energy drinks? They are really popular with teenage boys and I can smell when any of DS' friends have been drinking them as they smell really vile - like a stale plastic sweaty smell even though I know they have a daily dunking from hearing their Mums moaning about them being shower hoggers.

My mum couldnt care less about our personal hygiene. I was the smelly kid.
Luckly I took inspiration from friends and other family members as a pre-teen and started looking after myself, despite my mother's criticism.
Unfortunetely, my sister took after my mum and up to now, on her 40s, she doesn't wash herself or her clothes often and constantly has bad breath.
I blame my mother for my sister's behaviour.

falconi that is sad that your mum couldn't care less, and leaving you to be smelly

Forgot to mention constant hair lice.

Mine stank at that age until he hit mixed gender 6th form

No idea how i would deal with this... Hmm...
I would say "DS, we're going out. Go have a shower, i'll get your clothes ready and I'll get in the shower after you"
or something?