HELP!!!! DD 14 has been drinking

[Peckarolloveragain]

How normal is this ?? Should I panic or just deal with the sick etc and talk to her tomorrow

She's been sick a few times now has head on table complaining of head hurtjng
When is it safe to leave her to sleep?

Deffo don't bother being harsh now, talk to her tomorrow about it. When she's realising what a hangover is.

Sadly it's not abnormal. Just try to make sure it's a long gap before she does it again.

do not panic.
put her to bed in the recovery position with a bucket beside the bed.
hopefully she will have a dreadful hangover and not do it again .....
is she still vomiting?

She's vomiting but lucid in between not like paralytic -complaining of head hurting
Giving her sips of water
What is the average grounding you reckon?

Oh I'd be furious. And sad.

But stay with her until she's stopped chucking up.

Hopefully she'll be mortified.

Where has she been drinking and where did she get the alcohol from?

It's not uncommon, my 14 yo doesn't drink even when I offer her a snowball at Xmas or a fruit cider at new year but she's in a minority.

I don't know if grounding is the way to go, but some serious conversation needed when she sobers up about the risks. And no lie in or sympathy for the hangover - don't you urgently need to Hoover early tomorrow actually?

Oh dear. I did this at 14 and all my friends did too! Pit her to bed with a basin and you might want to stay with her a while until she stops being sick. My mum made me go on a "run out in the car" the next day - I've never felt as I'll. hope she's ok.

Agree with the advice above. I'd also get her to drink as much water as possible before she goes to bed.

You might want to keep a close eye on her & check her a couple of times during the night.

If it helps at all, DS1 did the same when he was 15. Got off his head drunk on brandy with his mates. He was so bad I was close to taking him to A&E. He felt dreadful for a couple of days afterwards but he learned a lesson from it. He's 20 now & reasonably sensible with drink, or so he tells me. And he says he will never, ever drink brandy again.

I do not know pecka -

(my son did this when he was 13 and got taken to bloody hospital in an ambulance as he had been in the park and scared some older person by his copious vomiting.
well i chased that ambulance so fast I got there before he did, and then there was muttering about CP and all sorts and i had the doctor looking down his nose at me and saying 'and DO you work?' etc......)

sorry I digress. but my point is he is now nearly 16 and has not been drunk since.
so please try not to worry too much.
Ground for as long as you think is suitable.

She is still vomiting and feeling very sorry for herself I also have her friend here who was here for a sleepover
Her story is someone gave her a drink and she didn't know what it was but I suspect that is to try and avoid questioning on what she has done - I don't buy it
I'm feeling pretty calm I just dearly hope it's not the beginning of a pattern and want to deal with it properly

Just ask her when shes sobered up "what did you learn from this"

How is she this morning?

I'd ask her how long she should be grounded. She might well come up with twice as long as you'd have said!

Annoyingly she wasn't very hungover !!

She has been very sheepish and apologetic

Punishment has been issued suppose all I can do is hope that she's learnt something

Thanks for the comforting advice !