how do you feel about 16 year olds drinking?

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I don't mean getting out of it, but having a few at a friend's ( supervised as in parents are in the house) ?
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It's not illegal to drink at home and as far as I'm aware you can even order alcohol in a restaurant with a meal from 14 I think? My Dad owns a bar and was telling me thus whilst I wasn't really listening but I'm sure there's something like that. Regardless I was drinking at home parties and special occasions from very young - wine and lemonade from 5 (not saying I agree with this but anyway) and always got a 6 pack of Babycham for Christmas from 9, I remember having a couple of Malibu & pineapples at Mum's 40th when I was 13, ordering lager and lime at Pizzaland every Thursday, started going to the pub properly at 15... but would I let DD? Hmmmm. She's nearly 8 & I wouldn't let her have anything yet. Can't see me allowing it before 14 but after that would I? 16 probably, yes. 15? Possibly, maybe. 14, hmmmm maybe not. I think I'll have to see when we get there!

I can't see the issue as long as they are not being allowed to get wasted. But I would much rather my dd drank under a trusted parents roof than in the Park.
I have offered my dd a drink with a meal etc since she started senior school but I get a disgusted look as she can't stand the stuff. Thats fine but i like her to know its on offer so if she chooses to experiment it will be at home rather than sneaking it into school or the park etc.

Sorry, just thought this may help:

I was allowed to drink with parents from quite a young age, but we were made to appreciate alcohol for what it does to food, and my mother almost preferred if we had a glass of wine with supper than to have a fizzy drink.

At ages 15-17 I was at a lot of house parties/summer weekends and we always drank large amounts but it was generally in a supervised home and never in a public place. When I was 16 I had a really bad night which ended with me wrapped around a loo for about and three hours and since then I have always found and stuck to my limit. The same can be said for a lot of my secondary school friends is that especially when we were young and finding a limit it took one bad (and often embarrassing) experience to make us realize that being drunk wasn't cool and that it wasn't attractive to any kind of boy that you would want to date.

At 18, I can safely say that I never abused alcohol in the way many of my friends have this first year at Uni because it was never restricted at home. I also find that I am one of the few people on my corridor who has not had to have their stomach pumped because I know my limit almost to a T and have tried not to pass that this year.

If you prevent your DD from drinking and she goes into a rebellious stage then it is going to be so much worse if she has never had any kind of party/drinking experience and she is more likely to act out and go too far. Having a few beers and glasses of wine at a friends 16th birthday sleepover (our sleepovers were generally around 20 people, about ten boys, ten girls who end up crashing around 3 and everyone getting up the next day to take trains) is so much safer than a bottle of vodka in a park at 2am in London.

it is ilegal to give other peopels children alcohol I dont or didnt encourage drinking at 16 I dont care what other people think I didnt want my dds pissed at a party and having to be brought home dd1 probably had 1 or 2 and a party she was never pissed though dd2 doesnt like alcohol and has never bothered when offered, I did offer at home occasionally

In my 'circle' it seems to be accepted that they'll probably be drinking at other people's houses with the knowledge of the parents when they're 17. According to DD (17.5) there's usually one person who has too much and throws up if the party is unsupervised. One of her friends who has recently started drinking does this every time and they're all getting very fed up of her.

I don't really know how I feel about it and I'm not looking forward to crossing that bridge when mine are older.

I was allowed alcohol from a very young age as my parents thought that would stop me rebelling and drinking excessively. It didn't work it just gave me a taste for it and I binged for England as I got older.

I think that my kids will end up drinking too much regardless of my parenting but I don't want to feel that I have encouraged them in any way so I will probably not allow it.

I have a house full of four fifteen year olds every Friday night to feed them after an activity they all do. They are all collected by parents around eight. What would you all think about giving them one beer with their dinner once they all reach sixteen (in just over a year)?

I wouldn't like it. When my DD turned 17 a couple of parents asked if it was ok for her to have a drink at theirs and I did the same with another parent - we know they drink at parties though.

I plan to let my 15YO DS have one drink at his DS' 18th party - when he'll be 15.5 and I'll let him have one at Christmas and NYE but I wouldn't encourage it as a regular thing.

dd1 was at drinking parties by the time she was 17 and they do get fed up with the thrower uppers or the ones who spoil it for everybody dd2 isn't atthat stage yet she has a few friends who go to parties and dont drink at all, I am seen as quite old fashioned on this a lot of kids in dds year seem to be doing it with parents knowledge some of the parents have them all in the house I know it is the done thing among some people it just isnt something i am cool about and would never encourage it,

DS16 drinks at parties. Usually a few cans of cider etc. Sometimes he will drink vodka if someone else brings it too. He has been sick once and since then is more sensible.

I drank loads at parties, barely bothered at uni and have been teetotal for 10 years now.

Lots of his friends parents think their DCs don't drink.....they think wrong.

My 16 year old god daughter drinks at parties or if she has a group of friends over.

My 15 year old (16 in 6 weeks) has never had a drink. I offered him champagne at my parents' anniversary party recently and he refused.

When I was 16, I was being dropped off at youth club and legging it to the pub once the car was out of sight. As were all my friends.

Parents never seemed to notice they were picking up slightly pissed girls who reeked of fags from a church youth club!