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Daughters and highlighting/dyeing hair

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celestialsquirrelnuts · 25/02/2014 18:13

Dd is 15 and has long straight thick blonde hair. I have suddenly noticed that lots of her friends are getting highlights or dyeing theirs. I realised that if she asks for highlights at her next trip to the hairdressers I haven't formulated an opinion yet, so thought I would ask you lot .

So at what age are highlights etc ok? And if now, who pays? I currently pay for her haircuts but tbh it is twice a year max so no problem.

Thanks v much

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AtiaoftheJulii · 27/02/2014 22:48

How much of her head? My dd2 has got a shaved bit on the side of her head (below her parting, back to just behind her ear), but I did it for her, lol!

It will grow.

amothersplaceisinthewrong · 27/02/2014 22:49

I had my first highlights at 15 (nearly 40 years ago) as a birthday pressie

My DD coloured her own hair at about 15 and I stopped even trying to have any say in it as my mother was far too strict about what hair styles I could have

amothersplaceisinthewrong · 27/02/2014 22:51

Oh and my dd dyed ds hair bright blonde for him. That I did not mind, but the fact they managed to ruin about 4 towels got me annoyed!"

Beamur · 27/02/2014 22:53

My Mum used to dye my hair for me - started when I was 13.

BrennanHasAMangina · 27/02/2014 22:53

I wouldn't have a problem with it if she's willing to pay for it herself and understands that it takes a LONG time to grow out. I started highlighting my hair at about 15...it becomes a habit and is hard to stop doing once you start. I eventually let it grow out a few years ago after adding up all the money I'd spent on it over the years . Some of DD's friends have recently dip-dyed their hair with Kool-Aid (disgusting, chemical laden drink crystals available in North America)!

teenagetantrums · 27/02/2014 22:56

not sure i understand the outrage over shaved hair, it will grow back you know, there is not a legal age for hair shaving.

TrinityRhino · 27/02/2014 22:57

I don't worry about hair colour

dd1s is blue right now
Its been blonde, red and blue before now

she's 14 in a few weeks

she gets cheap hair dye so the cost is not a huge issue, she walks the dog, does the dishwasher etc

MichAm · 27/02/2014 23:26

About the same, but her hair is right down her back so it looks pretty obvious. It will grow but will take a few years to catch up with the rest of it. Just think it's irresponsible of the salon to go ahead and do it. Over protective mother ??

nooka · 28/02/2014 01:59

I would expect a hairdresser to make very sure that anyone asking for a radical cut really really wanted that style and understood how long it would take to grow out and how it might look, but that's about it. dh and I once asked our hairdresser to bleach our hair (we both have very dark hair) and he refused. I was a bit surprised but he said that it would look bad and that as it was his salon he didn't want anyone to see our bad hair and think he had anything to do with it. He was fine about lilac though!

I'd be sad if dd did something I thought looked terrible to her hair, but it's her head. As it is we usually go to the hairdresser together and have a chat with the stylist, so not really an issue.

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teenagetantrums · 28/02/2014 10:13

re the shaved hair, my DD did this last year, didn't bother me but its all grown back now and her hair is the same length, well i think it is she stayed at her friends last night so who knows what she will look like, her friends sister is a hairdresser and does their hair when they want.

specialsubject · 01/03/2014 20:15

sounds a shame to muck about with what most people would like to have, but if she pays for it then let her do it. Make sure the word 'permanent' is in her vocabulary.

don't let any kid near your bathroom unsupervised with hair dye. They can do huge amounts of damage.

RandomMess · 01/03/2014 20:21

I always told my eldest she could have her hair any colour she wanted but she wasn't to do it at home.

I had to the bleach the walls after she disobeyed me this was 2 months after we'd spent £5k on completely redoing it !!!

NotMushroom · 01/03/2014 20:23

Dd15 wanted to change ger haircolour. I'm absolutely ok with that and makeup, providing it's done properly and there's not going to be a problem at school over it. She chose a semi permanent colour, we had it done at the hairdressers (I wanted her to be pleased and not have a disaster on our hands to correct). I paid, there was a student rate at the hairdressers, so it wasn't too expensive. It has lightened a bit over time but still looks lovely. I'm glad she had it done, it gave her a much needed boost

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