Please tell me what to do about pocket money now she has a job...

[Gymbob]

DD2 is 14, and has just got a paper round that pays £100 per month. She gets £35 per month pocket money. She also gets £15 a month from another source. That's £150 a month at 14?!

What do I do? What do you do? Do I stop the pocket money now she's earning?

HELP!

I have not stopped my dcs pocket month when they've got jobs - otherwise, where is the incentive to work ?
Mind, mine don't get anywhere near as much as your. I would save the £35 and £15 for her, which will still leave her with £100 a month, and also keep offering to save some of that for her, specifically for something that incentivises her (in my ds's case, driving lessons)

I don't understand why you would stop her pocket money because she's got a job. There is no logic to that.

I do think, however, that you can encourage her to save quite a large amount each month.

I think it would be a pretty bad lesson if you gave her less than her siblings because she is earning for herself..

No I wouldn't stop her pocket money. Ds1 is 16 and has a part time job and he still gets money from me or his dad. We don't do pocket money it's on an as and when basis. Eg needs new trousers do will give cash to go to town or wants to go to cinema as long as his chores are done and I can afford it I'll give him the cash.

I encourage him to save a % of his wages especially as he'll be 17 in July and wants driving lessons and a car, but it's him that will go without if he doesn't save as ill book him a block of lessons as his birthday present but he won't have cash for a car and I won't be insuring him on my car.

God, you lot are bloody brilliant. I can always solve a problem coming here

Firstly, DD1 working voluntary and still getting pocket money is a different kettle of fish. She is disabled. Having her out working all day Sunday is lovely respite for us. She works like a Trojan at the stables, but having her at home all day is a nightmare. I'd pay them to take her!

Right, had a chat with DD2. This is what we have come up with between us (thanks to you lot). She is going to keep getting her pocket money in full. I have said we will review it when she's 16 which is in 20 months time. Out of that £35 per month pocket money, I will take her phone contract, and put the rest her bank account. She's then left with £115, so she has decided (not me), to save an additional £50 to go with the £28 left from the pocket money.

I think that leaves her with £65 per month, to fritter away I suppose, on clothes and make up and McDonalds etc.

Does that sound fair?

Thank you all

I think I'd announce an age at which pocket money will stop - 15 or 16, perhaps. Then you're not committed forever to giving her more spending money than you have yourself, and you can do the same with other siblings to keep it fair.

We crossed Flow, think I covered that, great idea. thank you

Well done!

Glad it's all worked out. Sounds like you've raised a responsible young lady there . Remember, you can always review the arrangement at any time .

And yes I think it sounds fair :)

Well done Gymbob that sounds perfect.

One bloody day she lasted. bag too heavy, job too hard and too stressful, too much traffic. Takes up too much of HER time. I'm so cross have thought of every conceivable punishment. Her brother has taken it over, we'll see how long he lasts.