Help with DD? Should I confront her or not?

[RubyR332]

Hi all!
I'm new to this so please be gentle.
Last night I picked dd15 up from a party. She was acting a bit odd and when we reached home went straight up to bed.
I thought she might have been drinking and didn't want me to know so I went up behind her to ask was everything ok. She said yes and that she was just tired and felt a bit sick.
I tucked her in and leaned to kiss her on the cheek and I noticed a strange mark on her neck. She quickly pull the duvet up and said turn the light off on your way out. I left it be
and went downstairs. The more I think of it I suspect it was a hickey, now I would be lying in saying I'd never done anything like that when I was that age and when my mum found out I could never understand why she was so angry but I think now when your a mum yourself you actually realise how worrying it can be and you don't want to think about you little girl or boy growing up. Back to the point, she came down today wearing a hoodie (which she never does as she always complains about the house being too warm). and She's acting odd and shifty. Should I confront her and talk to her about it or should I just leave it and let what happens happen. My problem is whether or not it was some harmless kissing OR if something else has happened with some random boy. It seems a bit of a mind field .
Thanks

Have you chatted with her about contraception/underage sex/drinking/drugs at all, op?

I have to say I'd be tempted to pop out to the local shop with a call of "off to the shop dd, want anything? Chocolate? Magazine? Concealer for your hicky?"

I don't think a confrontation is needed, just a reminder that she can say a firm no to anything at parties, and you will always listen.

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I like the idea of shop popping to the shop, might have to try that

Yes we have a very open relationship and I have always told her that if she has a question or problem that she can always talk to me, no matter how bad or embarrassing it is! She's normally quite a sensible girl too just obviously not this time, which worries me that she might have been pressured. Might have to bring the subject up, not about hickeys, but about pressure from boys, saying no etc.

I'd be going 'off to the shop - need anything? Chocolate, magazine , morning after pill?'

Then raise my eyebrow.

This gives her a chance to confess she had sex and isn't covered by contraception.

If she overreacts and slams out the room complaining at least yuk know she's not up the duff

She's out at the minute with her dad and still hasn't taken the bloody hoodie off. It'll be interesting to see what happens with school uniform tomorrow and whether the "mark" will have mysteriously disappeared.

I might have an unexpected chat with her when she gets in and talk about the pill, sex, boys; the whole shebang! And ask her out right about whether or not she's had sex.

I'll make sure to use LaurieFairyCake's advice with "slamming of the door"

Arse, I knew someone would better my off-to-the-shop list