teenage boys

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Can anyone recommend a book that explains what's going on with a 13 year olds (boy) brain please? If I get told I'm ruining his life one more time (when all I've said is 'could you pick up your clothes please?'), I will scream... There must be a good one to help me understand his processes at the moment!! Perhaps I can get a handle on it before the next one reaches the same point. Thx.

A VERY helpful book - www.goodreads.com/book/show/4015366-get-out-of-my-life

It has a brilliant section about 'what you say' and 'what they hear' - it just illustrates to you the weird way they interpret perfectly sensible requests, and reassures you that you aren't going mad!

'Blame my Brain'
'Teen Angels'
'The Primal Teen'
Can't remember any of the authors, but you'll find one or all of them on Amazon (usually used ones for a couple of quid); made me feel a bit better!!! :)

Get Out of My Life : But First Take Me and Alex Into Town is a good one

I'd second "Get out of my life", it's well written and made me look at things slightly differently.

I still can't get over they can be so vile, not apologise and then be truly surprised when you refuse to carry out their latest demand. My DS starts screaming abuse if we ask (and we ask politely) for him to clean his room/bring his laundry down/put the 6 million plates and cups he hoards in his room into the dishwasher. I have no idea how he is going to get through life if he thinks it's acceptable to talk to people like that.

I hold onto the fact that, according to school, neighbours etc he is polite and respectful to other adults who aren't me and DH. One of my neighbours always says how lovely he is because he always stops to chat to her about his day when he's walking back from the school bus. Whereas I am lucky to get a grunt or a snarl.

Apparently they do grow out of it....

I third "Get out of my life"!

But I think I need to read it again

I am currently re-reading "Get out of my life" as having trouble with my 13yo twin boys, both being challanging atm, all be it in different ways. Just wish my DH would read it too!

It's definitely worth a re-read when the child evolves to a new unfamiliar stage as well!

I find with these parenting books that if I get one useful idea from them I feel they are worthwhile.

I remember when they were babies and the was NO INTERNET I had 2 or 3 very well thumbed parenting books. Anyone remember "Toddler Taming"?

Yes, yourlittlesecret, I had that!

Thank you all for the suggestions - Amazon here I come - and yes 'Toddler Taming' was great.