What can 13 year old tomboy DD wear to a wedding?

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It's a rather glam affair and DD lives in trackies, hoodies and vans/converse, with the occasional skinny jeans if I've asked her to make an effort for something.

Need ideas what she can wear to this wedding and still feel comfortable? I'm ignoring MILs pleas to force her into a dress. DD reluctantly did that for her year 6 prom and it ruined it for her.

How about smart trousers and a nice top or shirt, brogue type shoes or boots underneath. Would she like a waistcoat? They can dress things up a bit, but are more restrictive on movement?

Would she wear one of the Asian outfits, I can never remember the name. They are essentially a pair of comfy trousers and a baggyish top but very beautiful and pretty.
If you do get one, don't say it is for a wedding or they will show you the ones with all the bling in the world! Beautiful but probably not up your daughters street.

Do you mean a shalwar kameez? yes they look lovely.

However, I also think a well cut tux can look very Diane Keaton and fabulous.

You could take her to Cos if you have one nearby. Their sale is still on and she could get a lovely loose fitting but elegant shirt, worn with skinny trousers.

Slim trousers and a shirt, or tailored shorts, opaque tights and a glam top? Even a tux type suit if you can find one in her sizing as it would look v smart

Play suit and blazer.
DD2's smart outfit is a cream blouse top and black shorts one that would need nice tights and shoes for a wedding.

several of these have possibilities

Tailored shorts, a nice blouse and tights with brogues. The clothes might still feel really restrictive though.

Or skinny trousers and a nice top.

this would be my dd who will not wear anything unless Mark Owen would wear it. (sigh)

We had this convo actually should I ever get married again, and a fitted waistcoat and shirt seemed to be a great alternative. With skinnies.
Sequins are good, on something simple, or as an accessory on a small bag (for ipod). Or in hair as an alice band. What about a kooky fascinator?

This is actually what I'd like to wear as a wedding guest come to think of it.

A playsuit is a brilliant idea!

i agree!

A play suit is brilliant, especially if you could get one in silk. Match with gold, silver and metallic friendship bracelets and a pair of ballet flats, there are some nice soft leather ones that are as comfy as trainers. Some shops sell gel or memory foam insoles too.

Can you get her hair put up so its out the way?

River island also have a good selection of playsuits and jumpsuits. Everyone seems to be getting new stock so you may well be in luck.

We had two teens at the last wedding I went to. Both in bazers, embellished coloured blouses and one in smart shorts and the other I think in a leather skater skirt. (It would be leather too, they have money. They had heels and salon gel nails, which might not be your DD )

I didn't have my (sometimes awkward) DD2 to worry about, she was bridesmaid and she's really found of the bride so happily put on long dress and heels.

DD1 was easy, but expensive she spotted a perfectly conventional dress in Coast's window.

Embellished collared

Thanks for ideas, love the play suits. Will show DD when she emerges from her bed.

Thankyou MissBattleaxe, I do indeed mean a shalwar kameez.
My dd used to wear them for weddings because she could run around and enjoy herself in them.

A new track suit and trainers especially for the day.

Try www.mandmdirect.com
They usually have something at a very reasonable price.

'A new track suit and trainers' , she'd love you!

DD thinks the playsuits are a great idea.

At least MIL's not pressing for school uniform again

Oh yes, you remember my funeral thread last year . DD looked lovely in skinny trousers, shirt and blazer with a patterned scarf. It was winter though, or spring I think, quite chilly. I think she'd be too warm in that for a summer wedding.

Or is that wishful thinking because our summer hols this year is camping!!

Go somewhere like Monsoon and look at harem pants etc. These look glam and are still comfortable and not too 'girly'. They are my concession to looking dressed-up but I dont have to do all that skirt/slip/nylon tights/heels bo-llocks.

Or my other technique which is to go for 'wow...' - the skinniest black velvet jeans you can find and an amazingly exotic dramatic top. Look at Monsoon, Boden, White Stuff, East. Tie wild hair up in a scarf and thats me done. One dab of mascara is all they get because I don't do the 'make up counter at Boots' look either.

I have some converse type boots that are covered in sequins, would be great for a teen at a wedding.

Skinny black jeans/trousers and a nice shirt / blouse, probably baggy and if it was the teenage me oversized.

Shalwar Kameeze - I'm in Wolverhampton you can get some fabulous ones, not just the traditional ones you see the older Indian/Asian ladies wear but with skinny legs and shorter tops. I believe they are called churidar and they are fairly cheap too, starting at under £20.

www.krishnasarees.com/churidar-suits-c13/party-churidar-suits-c5#:page1:b1

My 13yo dd1 lives mainly in boys' clothes. For family parties (recently we had a golden wedding, and grandparent's funeral) she wore skinny trousers and a check shirt. That's her version of being smart and dressed up (left to herself she'd be in holey combats or shorts and an old tshirt). I don't make her wear anything she's not comfortable with. 12yo dd2 also doesn't ever wear dresses or skirts, so she also went to the parties in skinny jeans and a shirt.

9yo dd3 makes up for them if anyone cares with a liking for sparkly rustling party dresses, gold hairbands and party shoes. But I like the way my older two aren't bound by conventions and wear what they feel comfortable with. I hope it lasts.