Wise mumsnetters please help me with first love trauma

[DuffyMoon]

Dd 15 split with her first boyfriend after 6 weeks...this was 12 days ago. She has been inconsolable, crying every day at school and at home, spending hours analysing on phone to her friends etc and it's driving me nuts. Yes I remember how it feels and everyone has been through it ...I am worried about her gcses which are coming up and she keeps saying how she will never be happy again, he was the only thing making her happy, she feels empty inside etc.

I have made lots of sympathetic noises, told her to stop discussing him, blank him at school and basically said its a bit like having a scab, leave it alone and it will get better with time...if you keep picking at it, it will make it sore. A little bit of me also makes me think she is quite enjoying the swooning and the attention too.

Any advice...or can someone tell me this is perfectly normal...I have older dd and she was never like this so am a bit lost

TIA

Hopeful bump

Extremely normal! After only 6 weeks together I would be taking the drama with a big pinch of salt

You've been sympathetic and I would leave her to it now, let her chew it out with her friends. GCSE's are still some months away, will all be long forgotten by then.

It hurts. And they dont have the experience to deal with it. Teens hate any form of 'not fair' - and they just can't rationalise it.

Distract. Trips to cinema/theatre, days out, anything that stops her sitting in her room getting intense about it. Leave the phone at home. All this 'analysis' just winds it all up even more.

It takes ages for them to let go of this 'pain' - they love the drama of it!

Oh gosh I remember this from when I was a teenager. Don't know whether it helps, but someone once told me the (utter bollocks) rule that it takes half the length of the relationship to get over someone. In a weird way it kind of helped because you could set your watch by my change in mood... a six week relationship would have been me sobbing for three weeks and then at the flick of a switch going all Beyonce-I-don't-need-no-man. Funny when you look back..

Of course all this will seem lovely when she has her next crush!

She'll be ok OP :)

Nothing but time will heal I'm afraid!

Distraction will help. Maybe plan some girly activities for the two of you to help take her mind off it?