DD is 13. Last year she lost her good riding jacket/winter coat – left it at school after getting soaked walking because she missed the school bus because she wouldn't get up early enough. Getting the picture?
She seems to have cured the not getting up problem and now gets herself a good breakfast. That's good.
We made her pay for the lost coat, partly because she had lost it through pure scattiness, but also because she lied about losing it. Kept saying she hadn't.
We then bought her a cheaper but still good winter jacket in November last year. She lost that about a week ago but is lying again. Keeps saying it is in her room (which is a tip just by the way). It isn't. I've removed her iPad for this evening at least and left instructions about her cleaning her room. She will also have to pay for this lost coat.
Now the problem: if it were just a case of coat-losing by now, after making her pay for the lost items, I'd be shrugging and thinking "OK, I've got a scatty daughter; I guess she'll learn to be more careful with her belongings when she has got cold and wet enough. Or not, as the case may be. I can live with that." It's the stupid STUPID lie-telling that troubles me.
Have two grown-up daughters. I don't remember this kind of problem with them which is partly why I'm at a bit of a loss as to how to deal with it.