Why do I always end up feeling guilty?

[stace1128]

Hi,
I had a phone call from my dd's school yesterday saying she had missed some lessons last week, and was caught today not in lesson. Unfortunately my dd has started hanging around with a group of children who are known troublemakers in school, it was them who she was skipping lessons with.
I was furious with my dd, but I remained calm and thought we could talk about what happened and why. I was met by a barrage of verbal abuse, saying it was nothing to do with me and it's unfair my dd should be punished at home and school. The punishment me and my dh set was loss of internet privileges for the number of days to the number of lessons missed. My dd is furious and thinks this is ridiculous, and still can't understand why she's getting punishment at home.
I honestly feel really upset about the whole situation, because we don't live near any of my dd friends and the internet is the only contact she has with them outside of school, she doesn't attend any extra clubs outside of school as she said there's nothing she likes. My dd attends counselling because she has suffers with depression, so I'm worried that this will make her worse.
Any advice would be great, I'm so upset and feeling like the worst Mum in the world atm :(

Stand your ground.
Do not feel guilty.
You are right to set boundaries
But ultimately I wonder if you should be encouraging her to take up some interest or activity to give her a focus on life and perhaps meet some other teenagers her own age with a different perspective ?

She is working hard to make you feel guilty and change your mind. It's practically the job of a teenager to do this but it is your job to enforce boundaries and present a united front with the school. Failure to do so will result in worse consequences than a few days without internet access. As the previous poster said : stand your ground.

Thank you for your replies, it's really helped me to feel that I'm on the right path. My dd has tried a couple of clubs near us, but she's not continued with anything. I'll keep looking for other things around us and pushing on! Thank you once again x