New year same mess

[Wibble1999]

Ok I know compared to a lot of you my issue is pathetic.
I was out last night for dinner, arrived home this morning to find DD had people round last night and every room is a mess.
Not a dreadful party mess, just glasses, empty bottles, clothes and dirty plates everywhere. All the flooring needs mopping.
In reality 10-15 mins would have the place ship shape (can't face mopping again) ......but really really resent having to do it while DD is still fast asleep at 4pm.
It's not even worth the violent behaviour I would get if I woke her up to do the cleaning.
Sorry needed to rant.....

Violent behaviour? Pathetic? I don't think so. It's not the mess that is the issue but the fear to have it out with her. Not sure what to say - just wanted to answer as nobody else has, yet.

Just to echo Palika, the mess issue is insignificant compared to being afraid to confront your own daughter in your own home. What would she do that is so terrible?

If you aren't her maid, why are you behaving like you are?

I'd have got her straight out of bed, up & dressed and sorting out this cr*p herself.

If you don't want to be treated like her doormat, stop behaving like it.

Next time , before you agree to her having friends over, make her pay an up front cleaning deposit of 20 quid and tell her that if the house isn't cleaned the morning after then you'll be keeping it !

I explained to Ds" that if they get their mates to help clean up before they leave then it's less cleaning for them later. This seems to work and usually they are pretty good at getting their mates to clean up with them. I always leave a big bin in a prominent place.

Have to agree with the other sentiments.

If you haven't set the expectation that the house should be clean and tidy after her friends were round either by habit because that's the way you run your house or explicitly for this one occasion, you haven't really got much to complain about.

She should have to clean it up, she should have done it before she went to bed.

The question is why does she think its ok to just leave it?

Get her out of bed!