daughter has just told me she self harms in school

[foodlover09]

I don't know what to do. should I tell the school she self harms in the school or will this cause more problems?

Yes you need to tell the school.They should be able to arrange support for her.

Hi Foodlover, first of all please let me say I know how frightening this must be for you. I had the same situation with my DD in the summer. How old is your DD? Mine was at 6th form and her friends managed to persuade her to go to the college counsellor. She, in turn referred her to a self help group for more counselling which really helped. But the hardest part for me was that she wouldn't open up and talk to me about it. She seems to be through it now, more communicative with me and a much happier child, but I found it very difficult at the time to deal with. Your DD has taken a. huge step in telling you about the SH, try and keep communicating with her without becoming to persistent as that may frighten her off. Sending you hugs.

hi, sorry to hear about you dd glad she is much better now. (: was you dd self harming during school time? my dd is 17 and has been self harming since she was 16. what service was your dd referred to?

Hi foodlover, I'll be honest with you, and it is very hard to say, but I didn't know she was self harming, so I don't know exactly when it was happening and she wouldn't talk to me about it. She always wore baggy clothes with long sleeves that also hid the fact she was borderline anorexic. By the time we found out she had already been accessing the school counsellor and had been to her Gp because her best friend persuaded her too. Her BF was very loyal to her so didn't speak to us until she found my dd was stashing pills with a view to taking an overdose. She was referred to a local self harming group, but unfortunately they only cover our small area. If I can work out how to pm you, I will send you details. Personally, the hardest thing I found coping with after the shock was that she wouldn't talk to me about it and the fact I hadn't realised. I thought we were a close family. How are you managing?

mine self harmed at the back of the English class. there is a group of them in her year doing it. I told school and they are talking to her about it. they have been really good. I also told camhs.

a couple of days later she was flaunting her marked arm at a party proud as punch

crafty how is your DD now and is there any change? Hope you are ok, its an awful thing to go through as a Mum and I do feel for you. (and your daughter of course)