Another titanic row

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I don't really do rows. Neither does DS. DD (16) and DH however seem to delight in them. They are both being unreasonable, but plate-smashing doors off hinges rows are ridiculous. Completely ridiculous. I have called the joiner out at least half a dozen times this year to sort doors out. Not to mention the plasterer. I am fed up with their self-indulgent titanic rows. What can I do to get them both engaging in a civilised way without losing their tempers (and wrecking the house!).

Punch bag and a pair of boxing gloves. My boys loved ours.

Take the doors off?

I'd be absolutely livid if I had to call a joiner out and pay money because someone couldn't control their temper. I'd dock dds pocket money or gadgets to pay towards it and speak to dh about setting a better example.

It's ridiculous. Thanks both for responding.

I have had a long chat with DH. He is the adult and DD is the child. I admit that the child is badly behaved, but still, he needs to respond rationally and calmly rather than indulging in another titanic row. Which always results in damage to the property and upset to myself, DS and the dog (this last might sound ridiculous but she is still upset now, whereas DS is skyping his mates and seems okay now.

"Stop behaving like a 5 year old or I seriously consider leaving you."

No I'm not joking. No adult has the right to behave in such a pathetically self-indulgent manner.

Oh I thought it was a row about the titanic. No more for me

It's clear where she's learning the behaviour from. If DH loves these fights, then when will she learn to stop them?

You can't stop your dd behaving like this until you stop your husband. So deal with him first (if you can).

I wouldn't live with a violent adult (it's bad enough living with a violent teenager), so tell him you will call the police next time and do it. I bet it stops.

Then do the same for dd.

Thanks all. I will!

well.... you could say at least they don't store up resentments. It's all out & no festering bad feeling.

I think someone's pocket money needs docking for the repairs, though.