If your 14 year old took their overnight stuff to school with them, and said they were spending the night at X's house...

[LynetteScavo]

..would you text the parent of the house they said they were spending the night to check it was OK with them?

Because DS1's very nice, middle class parents don't, apparently - leaving me to text them when I settle down for the evening, usually about 9pm, to say "Just letting you know X is spending the night here, they're all watching X film atm.

There is no way I would let DS go to sleep at a friends house without checking with the parents first.

DH and I aren't sure if we were just really naughty teenagers, or if we are over-protective parents, or if DS1's friends parents are a bit slack. (DS and his friends are very honest and sensible, but still, they are 14yo boys with big ideas.)

I would only allow a sleepover during the school week if there was a specific need for it. And if I didn't know the parents, I would speak to them first, to check they were going to be home and see if they were happy with the plans.
If I did know them I would text to check to make sure it was OK.

I usually send a text thanking the parent for having offered to have my child - both schools have supplied us with a list of contact details for parents/guardians of pupils in the year. Oldest child is yr11.