want my 19yr old daughter to leave and stop disrupting family

[Kat64]

Help! My daughter has just dropped out of uni cos she couldn't cope with living in hall's.she intends to transfer to a uni near home, if they'll have her.meanwhile she stays in bed, on the computer etc but when it suits her will clean bathroom.it is causing grief between me and husband although we are of the same opinion - we are not going to let her make the family feel down/ruin their Christmas /next year. She has 2 brothers, 10 & 16 (who is concentrating on his GCSE study) . I have M.S but still work . I want to say to her "you're 20 next year, go and live in a bedsit and sort yourself out" what I want to happen is that she decides to change/grow up - gets up at a sociable time, offers to help in anyway needed and contributes to family life. Advice welcome.

RaspberrySchnapps

I was kinda hoping that post was a joke, but the more I read it, the more serious it seems.

Good luck op. FWIW, I think I would hate halls too. I never liked that much noise & didn't really do the clubbing scene at all. If all I wanted to do was study, it would be a nightmare.

It doesn't matter about the smaller room, that's what happens when someone moves on, someone else gets the benefit of the bigger room. I am sure she will understand that. Put it to her that she will have less space to tidy up :) :)

I think you'll be fine. Your heart's in the right place x