Pregnant

[Mrscupcake23]

Can't sleep my 17 yeAr old son has just told me his 16 year old gf is pregnant, feel gutted for them , I feel his youth is finished and hers they should be having fun ,

So what are they going to do?
How far along is she? What support does she have, and do her parents know?

This is a very vague post.

How long have they been together? How far gone is she? Does she want to keep the baby or have an abortion or put it up for adoption? Are they happy/scared/upset? Was the baby planned? Do they have support from you and from her parents? Do her parents even know yet?

They have been together A year . She was at college very ambitious my son has been working since he left school. I would not say it was serious they only see each other twice a week. They both seem quite excited by it. Her mum knows and is also upset we are all going to meet up tonight. I really would like her to terminate it but I know I cannot say this. They are both quite immature for their age.

big reality injection needed. Do they know how hard work it will be and the 24/7 nature of it all?

Yes I have sent my older daughter round with her eighteen month old to tell her what it is really like and how hard it is. She is older and married and she finds it hard.

Oh dear.

There is very little you can do about it, except listen and help them decide what it best.

Do not make any promises (where they might live, childcare, finances) upon which they might base decisions. That can come later, if you want to make any offers. They need to face all aspects of what it would mean for them to be responsible for a baby.

Stay calm (difficult); it's a life changing situation, whatever they decide to do. But it's not the worst thing that can happen. Good luck.

Honestly, at 16 she could still make a fantastic mum! I was 18 when I was pregnant and I wasn't ready and it definitely put any work ambitions on hold but when my lovely dd is 18, I'll be 36! I can live then. They're very lucky to have each other to help them through it. I wasn't ready for a baby if I'm honest but we've made it work and I'm now so in love with my little girl, and my partner who is 6 months younger has coped better than me! I know it's scary for you but in 9 months (or however long) when you see that little bundle all wrapped up in blankets and waiting to be cuddled, you'll realise that you wouldn't change this for the world.
Please please give them your full support, it will help them so much! I had my mums support but not mil's and it made me feel guilty for growing such a wonderful person! Which is not what pregnancy should be like!
I hope you get things talked about better tonight

Time is personal thanks for yr message I hope I can love this baby. Had a talk last night her first words were if I liked college I would think hard but my life is a mess. Pointed out to both if them how their life would change etc, I knew it's got to be their choice but they are nothing so immature my son days he will support her what ever , she thinks the baby has brought them closer together it's all such a mess . Really trying not to get hold
Of them
Both and shakeing them.

how about she looks after the 18 month old for a week? (perhaps with big sis nearby but not doing anything unless desperate)

also tell her to work out her finances, accommodation etc. WITHOUT moving in with you.

no, she doesn't have to abort, but she needs to GET REAL.