I'm just looking for someone to talk to really about DS2 who has had sleep onset insomnia for nearly 3 years now. I finally bullied the GP into referring him to a sleep clinic 6 months ago and he has had his first appointment, which seemed that what he has is not that unusual and can be sorted, but will take time. The GP also referred him to mental health services at the same time to rule out depression and the Psych came up with a possibility of ADHD for which he has a specialist appointment next week. I think it is quite likely he does have ADHD. I will then have to manage some kind of relationship between the sleep clinic and the ADHD clinic, it seems unlikely they will be prepared to talk to each other. I'm finding the NHS a nightmare.
DS2 changed from A levels to a Btec as he did badly in his AS - all the exams were morning ones which didn't help. He is now being threatened with having to suspend his Btec until next September if his attendance doesn't improve. They have dropped him from the extended level 3 (3 A level equivalent) to something that is equivalent to 2 A levels. Today he is refusing to go in again as he has only a one hour class - he can't get home until either I pcik him up or he gets the college bus as we live in the sticks. He can spend time at his dad's though which is 10 mins from college. I suggested he go to live with his dad for a bit a couple of weeks ago to make it easier (and because I was at my wits end) but he didn't want to do that, I don't really know why. His dad is not helpful - when I mentioned the ADHD appointment he said he didn't know about it (DS2 said he had told him) and said 'how do you think it makes me feel' - it is always all about him, never me or the kids.
I feel like I am in limbo. I am doing some hourly paid work which is near his college so I can drop him off and luckily the hours fit quite well but I am looking for a permanent job and yet feel I wouldn't be able to manage that and sort him out. His younger sister also suffers because I am so stressed about it all. Having him sit at home doing nothing until September would drive me mad and I don't know how I'd manage financially as I would not be able to get tax credits it he is not at college.
Sorry this is a bit of a rant. I am looking for support and don't really know where to go.