do you think the age gap between a 17 year old and an 20 year old is to large?

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I had a 24 year old boyfriend aged 17 and it lasted for 3 years. Ditched him when I was 20 because I realised he wanted to settle down and the thought of that had me running for the hills! I don't see a problem with a 17 and 20 year old.

Depends.

17 last week and two years of school yet to go, may be too young for an almost 21 year old who has finished university.

But an almost 18 year old A-level student with a just 20 year old first year university student sounds about right.

OP hasn't said which way round the genders are, nor even that the genders are different.

I was 19-just-when I met my now dh. He was 28 but lied about his age

Was not a problem then but is now as he is becoming an old man and I am in my priiiiime.

It wouldn't bother me either way Mist.

It's more the maturity level.

And I would be more if the ages were 14/17, or 12/15.

Once both are over the age of consent a couple of years' age gap isn't a problem, surely?

I didn't say any of it was a problem but there are quite a lot of assumptions on this thread

Aren't there always

Indeed

I think it depends on lifestyle.

If one is a student, one at school - their lives will be totally different and in my experience incompatible. Student life tends to need a student partner - schoolwork can't keep up with student drinking/partying!

If they are both working, difference wont be great at all and the age gap won't matter.

School and working might suggest different clashes of interest too, thought I've seen it work in the past.

What are the situations of the people involved OP?

It wouldn't bother me the other way round either

But since the op isn't offering any more infomation there's not much point replying

The OP needs to come back and tell us what the question is actually about - hasn't actually said it's about a romantic or a sexual relationship.....

Depends on the lifestyles of the people involved really.

No, I was 18 when I met my now dh, he was nearly 23.

No. A three-year age gap, when both people are over 16 is fine.

Whether it will work for a specific couple is down to maturity, personality, lifestyle choice etc., but that's not to do with age.

Nope, completely fine. I was 16 when I met DH, he was 20. DSD was 18 when she started going out with her ex he was 21.

Wouldn't bother me. However when dh and I got together I was 15 and he was 22. My parents were very unhappy and we ended up buying our own house together as soon as I turned 18. 19 years later we are happily married.

I'm a complete hypocrite but would be unhappy with dd going out with a 22 yo when she is 15. Would express it a lot differently to how my parents did.

My boyfriend when I was 15/16 was 19/20. I tired of him long before anything serious happened.

I suspect the OP is a 17 YO girl, and we have seen this style of question before on this forum........

I was 18 when I met my dh, he was 36. Being a mum now I can see the concerns my mum had for me (unfounded as it turned out).
I'm not sure there was a lot she could have done if she wanted too though, it would have made no difference.

I think its fine. But then, once you get past the age of consent I think most things are fine.