DD(14) and DS(13) sad about not going to see fireworks?

[JessLouise]

My mother was admitted to hospital yesterday and as such I'm visiting her each night. Every year we make sure to go to a fireworks display whether it's before or after bonfire night.
This year DH and I decide they're a bit old to go to a display and have decided that if they want to go they can get a group of friends to go with them. However this has upset them as it's the only family tradition we have left. Although I agree I think they're too old and need to grow up. We're happy to take them on holiday and do things as a family but surely children don't need mum and dad to watch some fireworks. Although DH and I love it, it's a bit cold this year and we do not want to go at all. What do we do? Both children are desperately begging and pleading, and sitting upstairs watching fireworks from their windows and crying. What do we do?!

Think you're being a bit mean actually. Would it kill you to take them?

Go! Enjoy your DC while they still want to spend time with you.

The first words in my head about this were that you were an eejit

In 3 years time you both will be botulism to them - with halitosis!

Go, you daft folk!

aww no dh has just taken our 2 to the fireworks they are 20 and nearly 16 please take your children i know you think they are to old but they are sad about it , they are asking to spend time with you both go to the fireworks

between 15 and 19 dd1 didnt go she must have decided her dad is cool enough to go with again

Trouble is at that age, they will NOT forget. And will remind you forever. My DCs are older and have never forgiven me for not getting a dog... I'm not stupid, it would be me looking after it!

I would take them, otherwise next year it will be A Very Big Thing whereas if you do it this year, next year might be inconsequential.

Surely one of you could go with them , or find a display at the weekend.

Go. They want to spend time with their parents. How fabulous.

Hope things improve for your mum.

Go.

Go at 13 and 14 they are not to old to go to a firework display with their parents. Ours still went at that age.

Go. Could they be needing some reassurance that not everything will change, especially in light of your mum being ill?

Keep doing the family stuff for as long as they want to.

May be difficult, obviously if you are visiting your Mum in hospital, but, if it weren't for that, I'd certainly agree with everyone else. Go together while they still want to - it's one thing all our (teen) dc are still quite happy to do as a family.

I think it's rather sad that you want to shed family traditions so quickly.
But then DD was surprised in her first year at Uni by the number of students that had no intention of going home for Christmas, or indeed going home at all.

Its probably too late now, but I would have gone, seriously before you know it youll be waving them off on the next phase of their life and youll regret it.

However, you are obviously under a great deal of stress with your mum at the moment and I hope things start to get better soon.

that you think they are too old to do things as a family.

That's something you don't actually grow out of.

I last went to the fireworks with my parents when I was 26 and DH came too!

I was gutted that they couldn't make it this year!

It's nice when families... Like each other.

Too old and need to grow up?

Jesus. My DF, whose anniversary is today, didn't even consider it until the secondaries appeared in his liver and he had to get the paperwork in order ASAP.

We get one go. Don't waste it.

Why don't you buy you own fireworks? Lighting then up is much more fun than just watching :)